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Update!! Idk what to think?!?! Found condoms in Dh car
January 21, 2013 at 9:40 AM
The other day my Dh asked to drive my car to work because he had to pick up his boss because her car was broke and his car was a disaster. Well let him take it but I had my own meeting at work so I had to drive myself and ds to it. Well my ds moved something in the back seat, and there under it is a empty 3-pack of condoms. We have not used condoms in years. I asked him about it and he says they were prob one of his guy friends he has recently gave rides. I had him call his friends and none of them admitted to it but one said possibly but he normally buys a different brand. Idk what to do. I am just fustrated.


I did some more digging like some of you told me to. He is not home and leaves his email logged on. So I decided to take a look. Well there are a ton on dating sites on there (which I have confronted him in the past but he says it is where he gives out his email for free porn). I have always just let this go. But over a year back I did find something in his email that made me questioned. It was a sent message to a personal ad on Facebook. I let that go too. But now there is a sent message from oct 24, 2012:
Thanks for emailing me back. I would like to chat back and forth and see where it goes from there. How is your day today.

Then it looks like she replied:
Hi k
Whatya up to? Hope you're having a great Wednesday. I am so excited to finally have a couple days off work (well deserved)!!! It's so great to meet a sweet guy. I would love to meet up this weekend for a few drinks and see where things go. I live next to a couple fun spots if you are interested.
I have my contact info on my profile. So don't be shy give me a call :)
Wet kisses

Then he responds:
Hi j
I would live to meet up for drinks just let me know a date and time that would be good for u

Then she messages back:
Hi Kyle???
I tried emailing you but it came back undeliverable. So I hope you get this. :) do you have any plans for tonight. I would love to chat, meet up, whatever. I can't wait to get something started
I am off tomorrow. I should be online if you want to chat. Here is my new profile... I have a couple naughty pics on there for you.

He replies back:
Hi j
If u like to chat and get to know eachother my number is (his correct number)

I don't know what to do. I looked on my text and he was running late from work the day this last message went out and I had to work thirds that night. I don't even know how to go about the process of separating. I know that sounds stupid. But neither of us have anywhere else we can go. We both are on the mortgage. Ect.


  • lucky2Beeme
    January 21, 2013 at 9:52 AM

    I personally would have trouble believing him. I would pay more attention to his where abouts, hours at work etc. I would also make surprise visits to his work.

  • NikiOcasio
    January 21, 2013 at 9:54 AM

    Hmmm, yeah I would be keeping a close eye on EVERYTHING... 

  • davnrori
    January 21, 2013 at 9:55 AM

     Has your DH cheated on you in the past or have you suspected him of cheating in the past? Admittedly, even though I trust my DH 100%, I would be freaked out by finding empty condom wrappers in his car. Your situation sounds suspicious though. Guys usually don't have empty condom wrappers just hanging out in their pockets where they can conveniently fall out in a friend's car.

  • angevil53
    January 21, 2013 at 9:55 AM
    Nope he'd be gone. Id know he's lying.
  • givenup1
    January 21, 2013 at 9:57 AM

     This would have me seriously concerned! I mean where did the condoms come from that are in HIS car? It is so easy for a man to say it was his friend's just to blow off the situation. Investigate!

  • hizwifie
    January 21, 2013 at 9:57 AM

    yea, because that is TOTALLY believeable. I know I always walk around with a pocket full of empty condom wrapers. 

  • silverdawn99
    January 21, 2013 at 9:58 AM

    trust your guy instinct

    would his friend really leave an empty box of condoms in his car?

  • twinmom114
    January 21, 2013 at 9:58 AM
    He is cheating most likely. What's the deal with his female boss? Does he normally run to rescue her?
  • BrownEyedGirl86
    January 21, 2013 at 9:59 AM
    That's tough
    My mind would go no where good and quick. But I don't know about your marriage like gas he cheated at all but I do agree with a pp do men really carry condoms in their pockets like. Was it just the wrapper or the package too
  • lilbit53009
    January 21, 2013 at 10:02 AM

    i can't imagine anyone walks around with an empty 3 pack of condoms in their pocket so they can conviently fall out in their friends car. it definately sounds like the condoms are his.

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