Choice A- very nice area which means higher prices for average-nice homes, in the city which is what we like, very close to dh's job, very competitive public schools with wealthy kids and much pressure to achieve (so much pressure that it worries my how this will effect our kids if they don't fit in).
Choice B- suburb (not in city) which is okay with us but we like city better, average home price for great homes, further drive to dh's work, excellent public schools and more laid back competition between students than choice A, but so not as much pressure to succeed which could mean less chance of going to college.
Choice A-super high pressure, excellent schools that yields success. But high pressure could be bad also; high home prices. (but we would do this only to insure great education for our kids)
Choice B- very good schools, better home prices.
I certainly want my kids to excel in school, I am sure we all do, but not so much that they are going to be stressed out over it. There are going to be enough years in my children's life that they will be under some sort of pressure both educationally and professionally, if I can minimize it now, I will.
I said B because you don't have to be in the most competitive school to go to college. I didn't even graduate high school.. got my GED and I'm in a very nice private college now. Grades make the student not the money. and a good neighborhood is the most important thing to me.