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I was just having a conversation this morning at work with a couple co workers and one of them was saying how there is a pair of boots she wants and she told her mom..I started laughing and was saying how there are times I'm like oh I really want this and my parents will buy it for me and be like oh it's your birthday present evening it is a few months early, or if they know there is something I really want but won't by it for myself because of the cost or something they will get it for me. It doesn't happen all the time but it does happen. I would do the same for my kids and if my parents ever needed anything I would be there to help any way I could,. Well another co worker that was sitting there told us that was sad and that we were mooching off our parents and that once your an adult you shouldn't get anything from your parents but should be there to give them whatever they need. He said he doesn't get birthday gifts nothing any time from his mom and was told at 13 when he needed new shoes that he better get a job then..to me that is sad. So it got me wondering how many of you have parents that will buy you things or do more of you have parents that say you are an adult I'm not buying anything for you.
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My parents still buy me things all the time! Even when I say I have plenty of money to cover it, they insist. They always assure me that I will never stop being their baby girl. Almost every single time I give them my phone bill money (been on their bill for 6 years so just continued), they show up at my house with diapers, clothes, & other gifts for my daughter and me as well! I buy them gifts as well though. That's what family is all about. :) -
Quoting FooLynRoo:
NO her parent is using gifts as bait to make her listen and OBEY,I've been trying to figure this out for awhile but it's called((CONTROL)). -
LOL umm okay.
Quoting Caramel824:
Quoting FooLynRoo:
NO her parent is using gifts as bait to make her listen and OBEY,I've been trying to figure this out for awhile but it's called((CONTROL)). -
I am fortunate to have both parents who would still do anything for me if its within their means. With that said I help my parents with whatever they need, bills, mortgage, etc. I have a symbiotic relationship with my parents since adulthood. -
Yes, I've bought things for my oldest daughter who is getting married in a few weeks. She makes more money than I do but but if I run across something she would like, I get it for her. She does the same for me. My daughters are 24 & 17, but wlll ALWAYS be my babies regardless of their age!
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Moms are wonderful. I asked her to mend my jeans stating they were 1 of 3 and she mended them for me and brought over new pants and I got too choose a few and she returned the rest. Some shirts were in the selection also.
We're moms, our children are in need, we help however we can
Quoting mama2beautiesnb:
I complained about being down to 2 pair jeans all yr. I got 10 pair for christmas from my mom. Not new, they were second hand, but she knew i couldnt afford it. And she pays to get my hair done once a yr for my birthday.
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I'm going to ask Papa is said by person in my house. Young, old, his or not.
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My mom will buy me things sometimes. Usually food to go out to eat. My Dad really doesn;t. I'm sure if I ask, he would, but I never do.
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Presents are for anyone of any age. Mooching is living with your parents after the age of 25 without paying rent, bills or for food and not going to college. Mooching is having your parents pay for your apartment, house, bills when you are past the age of 18 and not in college. That's my opinion anyway.
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Buying things for anyone else is simply a nice gesture, and shouldn't be judged by an outsider. That being said, I don't agree with parents paying for everything for grown kids who should be supporting themselves but refuse to because Mom and Dad enable them, but gifts are nit the same thing as enabling. My family doesn't do a lot of gifts, but my parents have helped me when I needed it and I try to help them back when I can and plan to make sure they're well provided for as they get older.