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My boyfriend has been having issues lately. He spent 3 weeks in the ICU over Christmas due to pancreatitis. He had to pay 3700 for a new motor for his car. Apparently something happened at work, which I don't know what it was because he was too pissed off to talk about it. But at one point he was telling me that this is how much he was behind right now because of a mortgage he has here and his rent and utilities where he is at. He's in Minnesota, I'm in Nebraska. He lived here when we started dating, he moved there for a job. So anyway, I understand that he's really stressed right now about his job, his bills and everything, but he would text me when it was convenient for him I guess. So on the 8th, he was sending me pics and talking to me and everything in a great mood. I called him that night and he didn't answer... No surprise there. He did text me back saying he would call in a bit. It was 9 pm. At almost midnight I tried calling him again.. No answer. Then I texted him and said 'disappearing act again or just ignoring me for the night? ' that sparked an argument. He texted me telling me that he was working underneath a car so he couldn't text me or talk on the phone and the stuff he was using had only 90 minutesbefore it hardened or whatever (he's an auto detailer) and then he proceeded to say if you don't mind me getting fired for wasting materials which I've already gotten chewed out for, then I can do that, if that's what you want. If not, I need to get off the phone and put my gloves back on and finish the work I started. So then I'm like carry on we'll talk tomorrow and thanks for making me feel like shit by the way. Then I went to bed. The next morning on the 9th I texted him good morning I'm sorry for being such an insensitive asshole last night and he didn't say anything, later in the after noon I was like could you please acknowledge my messages once in a while please? And he texted me saying this "I love you. I'm having the worst fucking day of my life so far." and that's the last I heard from him. What do you think that means? Better yet.. Ask your hubby's what it would mean if they had said that and then disappeared. I'm so upset, I don't know if anything bad has happened, or if he's in the hospital again, I haven't met his parents yet nor do I know their names.
EDIT- as far as him being in the ICU, he has pancreatitis, he was in the ICU for 5 weeks in 2010, and then for 3 weeks over Christmas
GOOD CALL LADIES! THIS MOTHER FUCKER IS INDEED MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm retiring from dating, his wife is getting the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
~~UPDATE 1/27/2013~~~
Since I had posted this, he has responded, I confronted him about being married and then he ended up telling me that he had stage 4 cancer and had a year left to live. He told me that he had told his wife about us. Wrong. Judging by the message I got from her on facebook today, he hadn't told her but I really didn't believe him when he said that he told her. She doesn't believe me even with the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
EDIT- as far as him being in the ICU, he has pancreatitis, he was in the ICU for 5 weeks in 2010, and then for 3 weeks over Christmas
GOOD CALL LADIES! THIS MOTHER FUCKER IS INDEED MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm retiring from dating, his wife is getting the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
~~UPDATE 1/27/2013~~~
Since I had posted this, he has responded, I confronted him about being married and then he ended up telling me that he had stage 4 cancer and had a year left to live. He told me that he had told his wife about us. Wrong. Judging by the message I got from her on facebook today, he hadn't told her but I really didn't believe him when he said that he told her. She doesn't believe me even with the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
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It sounds like he wants space. He's just a boyfriend, not a DH or anything. Do you live together? How long have you been together?
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myb dh says it sounds like you are clingy and needy, and should back off and give him his space....he also sounds like he is immature and doesn't know how to handle his anger.
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I would say he has no respect for you and was with another woman. How long have you been dating? -
I would text him that if he doesnt let you know that he is ok, you are going to send the police out for a welfare check and then follow thru. -
Quoting Mom2Boys9501:
I would say he has no respect for you and was with another woman. How long have you been dating? -
I don't know what town he lives in now.. He just moved there from spirit lake iowa
Quoting adrianasmommy07:
I would text him that if he doesnt let you know that he is ok, you are going to send the police out for a welfare check and then follow thru. -
We started dating on memorial Day, he disappeared the first time in July. Came back around in November.. We got back together November 10th.
Quoting Jessy613:
Quoting Mom2Boys9501:
I would say he has no respect for you and was with another woman. How long have you been dating? -
I have only seen him once since Christmas and it was before new years, I like to talk to him.
Quoting emmy526:
myb dh says it sounds like you are clingy and needy, and should back off and give him his space....he also sounds like he is immature and doesn't know how to handle his anger.
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All I can say is RED FLAGS!!!!!
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My DH says...Sorry it sounds like he's not that into you. If he were you'd know where he is and you would have met at least someone in his family by now.