The CafeMom Newcomers Club
As I was online last night, I came across a great question. What do you feel is a comfortable age difference between siblings? The most popular answer was 18 months to 2.5 years apart. In my opinion, I believe that the closer in age the children are the better, however, I was 9 years apart from my youngest brother and 8 years apart from my middle brother. So I never had the close in age sibling. I think that the age difference between us doesn't change anything, if anything it has helped me and my youngest brother. If he needs advice and doesn't feel comfortable talking to our parents, he will talk to me. I feel that it is best for him because he can still get an adult opinion without feeling embarrassed or feel that he is being judged. BTW, youngest brother is 14 and I am 23.
DF and I are TTC baby #2 and our children will be almost three years apart. :D
- Only group members can vote in this poll.
- 6% - less than 18 months
- 32% - 18 months to 2.5 years
- 31% - 3 to 5 years
- 13% - 5 to 8 years
- 16% - Age difference doesn't matter
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I wanted my kids 2-3 years apart. Instead, they're 4.5 and that's fine. He's an amazing big brother, he loves playing with his baby sister, helping with her, making her laugh...If I were to have more kids, I think ideally they would be 2-3 years apart, again that's not going to happen. It would be closer to 3-4 years. Which is fine. It's working now.
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Mine are 4 1/2 years apart (almost to the day). I loved being totally there for DS and giving him all of our attention. When DD came along, DS was in pre-k all day so she had me all to herself too. I also like that we'll only be paying one college tuition at a time, granted, it'll be 8 years in a row!
My cousin's kids are 11 months apart and were raised as and looked upon as twins. Her oldest was held back in school so they were in the same classes. They're very close, which is great, but I feel like they never had individual attention. JMO.