Rain2Rinse
Once a sex offender always a sex offender?
January 3, 2013 at 6:18 PM
What are your thoughts on this?

My dh's cousin had sex with her 13 year old sons best friend (also 13). She served 3 years, was released, and says she is a completely different person now. She says she knows she was wrong.

I don't understand how she don't know it was wrong before, by now she does. Dh thinks I'm judging her too harshly.

Replies

  • LntLckrsCmQut
    January 3, 2013 at 6:21 PM

    I tend to think so but if by some weird chance they aren't, I'm not willing to find out.

  • ZakkarysMom
    January 3, 2013 at 6:29 PM
    If they did it once they will again. IMO
  • JulyBabies
    January 3, 2013 at 6:34 PM

    I don't know the exact statistics (though from what I recall it is not favorable to the offender) but I will always be suspicious and will certainly not allow any of my kids near them alone.

  • Refurbished
    January 3, 2013 at 6:37 PM

    I still wouldn't want her around my kids.  At best, she has some impulse control problems, at worst she's a pedophile. 

  • Aivlys_
    by Aivlys_
    January 3, 2013 at 6:38 PM
    She is gross and I wouldn't want her around my kids!
  • frndlyfn
    January 3, 2013 at 6:42 PM

    Some can be reformed or rehabilitated but the ones I have been around are not.  They continue to exhibit the habits of a molester even after being in jail.

  • reche1978
    January 3, 2013 at 6:43 PM

    a grown ass woman had sex with a 13 yr old child, no your not being to harsh! I wouldnt have her near my kids....sick pervert

  • Mama2ETA
    January 3, 2013 at 6:45 PM

     I think it's twisted that your dh is standing up for her....

    I do not believe that it matters whether she "knows" or not anymore. She shouldn't be around children, period.

    ETA: She's a sexual predator, not just an offender.

  • Master_Debater
    January 3, 2013 at 6:47 PM
    No, I believe they can change, although I wouldn't take that chance myself.
  • Rain2Rinse
    January 3, 2013 at 6:49 PM
    He was really upset with me for saying anything negative about her! It floored me! This woman chose to have sex with a child... 3 times!

    No, she cannot babysit our children.


    Quoting Mama2ETA:

     I think it's twisted that your dh is standing up for her....


    I do not believe that it matters whether she "knows" or not anymore. She shouldn't be around children, period.


    ETA: She's a sexual predator, not just an offender.