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**sigh** my poor sister :-( looks like we have plans for NY's after all.....
by D.O.E.
December 31, 2012 at 2:16 PM

so my sisters J & L are getting together with their men and friends at L's house in saskatoon for a NY's poker party, and rocky really wanted to go. 

but L told mom "no, she will just kill our buzz and we will have to babysit her"

Rocky has been very melancholy, saying she has no friends to celebrate with, no one loves her, all that stuff. 

mom called me sounding very sad, and weary, she said rocky had gouged her face with her fingernails, leaving deep marks, and she is worried that rocky might be suicidal.

mom and her SO had just planned on having a quiet night at home, me and dh had the same idea. 

but mom is desperate to get rocky out of the house, so it sounds like they will be driving 2 1/2 hrs to get here, so they can "party"  with us.

which of course i am completely fine with.

but i am so mad at J&L.  fucking assholes. less than a year ago our sister shot herself, and was lying in ICU for 2 months, another 4 months in recovery, we are so lucky she didn't die. 

and now, what, not their problem? ugh!!!!!! i am so ashamed of them right now :-(

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  • D.O.E.
    by D.O.E.
    December 31, 2012 at 2:17 PM

    the really sad thing is.......and i hate to say it....but i am worried she might do something stupid while she is here. 

    just after christmas she posted on fb "why didn't they just let me die? i should be dead right now"

    this never ends :-(

  • mommy_2_be_2010
    December 31, 2012 at 2:17 PM
    I remember your post about her bump
  • D.O.E.
    by D.O.E.
    December 31, 2012 at 2:27 PM

    :-( it just never ends.......ugh

    Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

    I remember your post about her bump


  • mommy_2_be_2010
    December 31, 2012 at 2:39 PM
    other than that how is she ? I'm sorry :(

    Quoting D.O.E.:

    :-( it just never ends.......ugh

    Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

    I remember your post about her bump


  • chickensmommy
    December 31, 2012 at 2:39 PM
    I'm sorry but I have a sister with mental illness. She is so destructive that I have cut ties with her. People get tired of walking on eggshells!
  • Nathans_mom0612
    December 31, 2012 at 2:44 PM
    Just trying to makevsure i have the right story. Is this the sister that shot herself in the head and your in laws were being real mean to you?

    I am very sorry your family is going through this.
  • babyspots17
    December 31, 2012 at 2:47 PM
    Sorry but I can't really blame them. I understand as her siblings they should help but do you really think "partying" with her is the best solution? Your sisters are partying with their menwhich she doesn't have and their friends which I am guessing she is not friends with soshe would be alone with no friends depressed drinking alcohol(guessing). That would be setting her up for disaster. She is much better off with your family and your parents in a small family fun atmosphere. She obviously needs magor help but if I remember correctly she isn't really helping herself and getting/following the help she needs. (Could be wrong.) Good luck hopefully you can have fun and keep her safe hope 2013 is a better year for your family!
  • acrogodess
    December 31, 2012 at 2:49 PM

    You had a different screen name before right? Is this the sister that was hospitalized for awhile due to an accident and swelling in the brain? I'm sorry that she feels that way. I hope she can get the help she needs to feel better about herself.

  • skyelyns_mommie
    December 31, 2012 at 2:51 PM
    I remember you ;( I was so hoping your sis had gotten better. Has she gone to therapy??? I'll keep you all in my prayers
  • D.O.E.
    by D.O.E.
    December 31, 2012 at 3:07 PM
    Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

    other than that how is she ? I'm sorry :(

    Quoting D.O.E.:

    :-( it just never ends.......ugh

    Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

    I remember your post about her bump


    physically? she is walking and talking, she is good. still has some bladder issues. psychologically? i think she wishes she had died that night. she is very impulsive and unpredictable. has a knack for finding men to take advantage of her, uses sex with strange men to feel "loved"......it is really sad actually. she does not seem to realize how lucky she is to be here :-( she is very self destructive. (yes she is in therapy, she has an ABI specialist, and mom tries very hard to keep her "under control" but she will for instance, go to drive the school bus, and come back to the farm, and rocky will be gone, she gets guys to come and pick her up while mom is working...poor mom)

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