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Please bare with me. We have been married 6 years, we have two kids and I'm 33w pregnant with number 3. Over the past two years my husband has changed, a few years ago he just up and left for no reason and I didn't hear from him until he came home 6 days later, he had been at his mothers. Bottom line I now have extreme anxiety if I don't hear back from him. He does whatever he wants, I don't remember the last time we had a real conversation. This baby I'm pregnant with he didn't want me to keep, I feel like he resents me for keeping him. Tonight he's out for New Years, no idea where, wont return messages or phone calls and I am in tears. This isn't the full story but I hate feeling like this, I feel like he just doesn't care, the only time we interact is during sex. I feel alone and I'm scared of what ill become if I leave him, I'm unhappy now but I'm afraid of becoming depressed and anxious if I leave. He probably wouldn't even care. I always pretend to be in a happy marriage but here it is, this is how it really is. I just needed to get this out. Thank you to anyone who read this
UPDATE
So I packed up and left with the kids yesterday and went to my parents. They have helped out with the kids while I have some time to sort things out in my mind. I finally lost it and told dh exactly how it is. We're are seeing each other Sunday to talk, I will tell him everything, how I feel, everything. I will finally stand up for myself. Ill also ask him what he wants and get to the bottom of that finally and go from there. But I think this will be it, after I see him Sunday I don't think there will be any going back
UPDATE
So I packed up and left with the kids yesterday and went to my parents. They have helped out with the kids while I have some time to sort things out in my mind. I finally lost it and told dh exactly how it is. We're are seeing each other Sunday to talk, I will tell him everything, how I feel, everything. I will finally stand up for myself. Ill also ask him what he wants and get to the bottom of that finally and go from there. But I think this will be it, after I see him Sunday I don't think there will be any going back
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I'm so sorry! My ex used to leave me for days at a time to go party. I hate that feeLing more than anything. -
I just can't take it anymore :( I have extreme anxiety now and I don't want to feel like this forever
Quoting First_One_8_18:
I'm so sorry! My ex used to leave me for days at a time to go party. I hate that feeLing more than anything.
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If you leave you will become a stron woman that stood up for herself.
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Do you have family you can go to
And get away for awhile? Maybe some time apart will help you both work things out? -
I know how iut feels, my 4 year old's bio father was an alcoholic drug addict. He'd leave and not answer his phone. Go to the bar whenever he wanted. It's no surprise really that he abandoned us when she was only 7 days old. Get out and learn to stand on your own 2 feet again. -
Don't waste your life with someone like that. You deserve happiness so go out and make it for yourself. Good luck! -
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You don't want him to resort to a murder-suicide to fix his problem do you? Teach your children that that isn't acceptable behavior, and you wil not be treated that way.
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Get out now. It's hard but necessary.