I raise my kids to live by the morals and standards I set for them. If they stray from that, then no. I will not support them. I am fairly lenient and I don't restrict them much, but when I do, it's on the big stuff.
I guess it depends on what the definition of "stand by" would be. So far my young children are on a good path. I would assume at this point that if something like that happened, mental illness or crazy circumstances took a part in any horrible wrong doing. Would I help them to the best of my ability? Yes. But I would not encourage pleading not guilty to a crime that they clearly commited. At least, I would like to think that.
I have a friend whose child has oppositional defiance disorder. I can totally see how at some point you can't handle it anymore.
there is a huge difference between standing by them and condoning their actions. I could not condone their actions, and would expect them to face the consequences whatever they may be, but I don't think that I could turn my back on them. In my mind, supporting someone means standing next to them and encouraging them to do the right thing. Even if that means standing next to them while they face the death penalty.
I know its easy to say you would until you were actually put in the situation but put yourself in the situation and could you honestly stand behind your kid and support them no matter what they did?
Like with all these stories on the news, teenagers killing their newborns, casey anthony, the mom who prostituted out her two young girls (both under 10 years old)
situations like that, could you still stand by them even if found guilty?
hopefully, none of us will ever be in a situation like that.