Need advice ASAP.....What would you do??

[jenking04]

I have been staying with my ex sence we broke up a few days ago. Things have been ok but today we had a HUGE blow out. He came home from work being a complete jack ass. I was trying to talk to him about our son and how he has been feeling. He sat there like he could care less. I also found out today that he has been cheating on me. Anyways things blew up and at one point he said he was going to call the cops on me for having weed (the weed was his) and alchole and send me to jail for a long time. I smacked him cause he was willing to hurt mt kids that way. He said I have till the first to be completly out at which time he will have a new apartment and will have the cable/internet and electric turned off. He said something about going after custody of my kids and cancelling childsupport. He said he would file a restraining order against me for stalking him that way it would be easier to get custody of my kids. He has left for the night and says he won't come back till I am gone. He says because I smaked him he fears for his life. My question is even though I have till the first to be out should I just move all my stuff out now and get it over with?? Or should I do it slowly and make sure I am out by the first?? I have no clue what him or his druggy friends are capeable of if they just show up here or what. What would you do?? The only problem is when I leave here I will be going back to my parents home.

[coolmommy2x]

Get out now!

[jenking04]

I never said it was ok. My kids were asleep at the time so they didn't see anything. But seriously this has been building for the last 10 years with his lies and cheating. Why I stayed so long I have no clue I should left him years ago when he cheated the first time. I guess part of me was hoping he would change hoping he would want to be a better role model for his son. But if I left years ago I wouldn't have my daughter.

Quoting AMBG825:

So. That makes it okay for you to be an abuser? What kind of message are you sending your kids?

Quoting jenking04:

He wouldn't call the police cause he had weed on him.

Quoting AMBG825:

 So. You don't hit people. Doesn't matter why. You get up and leave if you are that angry. If he had hit you, you'd be demanding his head on a platter and he be thrown in jail. You're lucky he didn't call the police or you would have gone to jail.

Quoting jenking04:

He started cheating before we broke up. And I only hit him cause he threatened to send me to jail and take my kids from me.

Quoting AMBG825:

 Well, first, if he's your ex how can he be cheating on you? 2nd. Keep your hands to yourself. You don't hit people.

 

3rd get the hell out.

 

[jenking04]

I don't smoke weed. He does .

Quoting randomosityblog:

First of all I would not really admit to hitting him, because there's no proof. :/

Second of all, I'd leave NOW.

Third of all, stop smoking weed before it DOES send you to prison.

[AMBG825]

You didn't say it's okay but you aren't sorry either. You have every excuse as to why it was okay for you to be an abuser. "He made me mad so I hit him tee hee" Do you routinely get violent with everyone who makes you mad or just your boyfriends?


Would "I was mad" been a good excuse for him to have hit you?

Quoting jenking04:

I never said it was ok. My kids were asleep at the time so they didn't see anything. But seriously this has been building for the last 10 years with his lies and cheating. Why I stayed so long I have no clue I should left him years ago when he cheated the first time. I guess part of me was hoping he would change hoping he would want to be a better role model for his son. But if I left years ago I wouldn't have my daughter.

Quoting AMBG825:

So. That makes it okay for you to be an abuser? What kind of message are you sending your kids?

Quoting jenking04:

He wouldn't call the police cause he had weed on him.

Quoting AMBG825:

 So. You don't hit people. Doesn't matter why. You get up and leave if you are that angry. If he had hit you, you'd be demanding his head on a platter and he be thrown in jail. You're lucky he didn't call the police or you would have gone to jail.

Quoting jenking04:

He started cheating before we broke up. And I only hit him cause he threatened to send me to jail and take my kids from me.

Quoting AMBG825:

 Well, first, if he's your ex how can he be cheating on you? 2nd. Keep your hands to yourself. You don't hit people.

 

3rd get the hell out.

 

[andersongirl562]

And I notice no one seems to care that she hit him? Were she a man she would have been torn apart and would probly be in jail.

[jenking04]

I am sorry but guess what I can't take it back. He has grabbed me around the throat before and done all sorts of things to me to cause me pain. I even told him I was sorry before he left. I'm not normally a violent person. That was the first time I had ever hit someone and it will be the last. I held myself back for a long time even with him in my face screaming that he was going to send me to jail for having weed that wasn't mine. Just the other day he left bruses on my hip from hitting me. I didn't call the cops because he left and he made his usual threats that he was going to get custody of the kids and he was going to quit his job and work under the table so he would never have to pay CS for any of his kids again. He has two other kids who he walked out on years ago as well.

Quoting AMBG825:

You didn't say it's okay but you aren't sorry either. You have every excuse as to why it was okay for you to be an abuser. "He made me mad so I hit him tee hee" Do you routinely get violent with everyone who makes you mad or just your boyfriends?





Would "I was mad" been a good excuse for him to have hit you?

Quoting jenking04:

I never said it was ok. My kids were asleep at the time so they didn't see anything. But seriously this has been building for the last 10 years with his lies and cheating. Why I stayed so long I have no clue I should left him years ago when he cheated the first time. I guess part of me was hoping he would change hoping he would want to be a better role model for his son. But if I left years ago I wouldn't have my daughter.

Quoting AMBG825:

So. That makes it okay for you to be an abuser? What kind of message are you sending your kids?

Quoting jenking04:

He wouldn't call the police cause he had weed on him.

Quoting AMBG825:

 So. You don't hit people. Doesn't matter why. You get up and leave if you are that angry. If he had hit you, you'd be demanding his head on a platter and he be thrown in jail. You're lucky he didn't call the police or you would have gone to jail.

Quoting jenking04:

He started cheating before we broke up. And I only hit him cause he threatened to send me to jail and take my kids from me.

Quoting AMBG825:

 Well, first, if he's your ex how can he be cheating on you? 2nd. Keep your hands to yourself. You don't hit people.

 

3rd get the hell out.

 

[Baybeelove88]

Grab your shit and get out now...

[marinewife55]

Where in Nevada, I might could help you

Quoting jenking04:

I live in Nevada. I have set up all my resources to get the hell out of here.

Quoting jhslove:

Where do you live? Do you have family or a friend you can stay with while you get on your feet? If not, there may be resources in your area for single mothers leaving abusive situations.

Quoting jenking04:

We are better without hime. And honestly it felt pretty damn good to hit him after all he has put me and my kids through.

Quoting jhslove:

I was just thinking this. If this guy is keeping drugs in the house and is willing to use "sending you to jail for a long time" (not sure how he thinks he has the power to do that, but whatever) , regardless of the negative impact that it would have on your son, then he's a jackass and a loser to boot.

Sounds like you AND your son would be better off without him.

Quoting jakesmom323:

Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.

[jenking04]

Reno

Quoting marinewife55:

Where in Nevada, I might could help you

Quoting jenking04:

I live in Nevada. I have set up all my resources to get the hell out of here.

Quoting jhslove:

Where do you live? Do you have family or a friend you can stay with while you get on your feet? If not, there may be resources in your area for single mothers leaving abusive situations.

Quoting jenking04:

We are better without hime. And honestly it felt pretty damn good to hit him after all he has put me and my kids through.

Quoting jhslove:

I was just thinking this. If this guy is keeping drugs in the house and is willing to use "sending you to jail for a long time" (not sure how he thinks he has the power to do that, but whatever) , regardless of the negative impact that it would have on your son, then he's a jackass and a loser to boot.

Sounds like you AND your son would be better off without him.

Quoting jakesmom323:

Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.

[resipsa]

Also, don't do something stupid like hit him, and then something dumber like put that admission on the Internet 

did you get married? 

Your kid deserves a more stable environment