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My 3 year old come home with band aids on his stomach. When I finaly convinced him to let me take them off he had two big red whelps under the band aids. When I asked him what happened he said "Ms. ** did it. She just did like this... as he motioned" When I asked him why and what happened he said that he was being bad. It looks as if maybe she grabbed him by the waist and dug her thumb nails into his stomach and drug them. There are two raised red marks on the sides of his stomach and they are swollen up about 1/2 in long. I was not notified and was not given a report. I am going to the director about it tomorrow. But.... What would you do? What would you say???
Okay, first I want to thank every one for their advice. Sorry I couldn't update sooner. Yesterday I went and spoke with the director. I told her my concerns and showed her the pictures and made sure she knew I was concerned and upset. Well turns out she was the one who put the band aids on him.... because the teacher told her that the red areas were ringworm. I told her she needed to go look at them again. They are on the same spot on both sides of his stomach, that would be highly unlikely. I then repeated the part about what my son had told me and his story behind it (how and why). Anyhow, I had her call and make a formal report. I was told I had to go see a doctor and have ring worm ruled out... We went to one of those little clinics and when I explained they turned me away and told me I would have to go to the ER. They do not and will not see suspected abuse cases. He did however, say that the red spots look like pinch marks because of the size and the broken capillaries. The ER doctor confirmed saying they are abrasions NOT ring worm. (They look NOTHING like a ring worm) .
Today DHS came and saw my son. I have yet to hear from them as it is Friday, I am hoping to hear something on Monday.
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I would take pics and show the to the director.
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Would this be considered child abuse?
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I would take pictures and get the whole story from teacher as well. Any physical contact like that is unacceptable unless the child is in harms way and gets bruised being pulled to safety.
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I would tell the director what DS said and see how they respond. Although I'm not saying he's lying, there are often 3 sides to every story. -
For sure get pics. I would probably be tempted to call DFS (or whatever it is in your state), but talk to the director anyway. I would consider this abuse myself. Talk to the director first and then you can decide what further steps need to be taken.
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It's just the fact that he said she did it and he reason was that he was being bad.
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I would be taking pictures, pressing charges for child abuse and my child would no longer be going to that daycare and the lady would be very lucky that i would rather be at home with my child than sitting in a cell on assault charges. -
I don't think he would lie about that. He is only 3 and has never made up a story about anything before.
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maybe she was wearing rings and accidently scratched him? i have accidently done that with my own kids. i would definitely question it though. it's tough having kids in day care. it makes me sick to think about someone hurting my kids. it's my biggest fear.
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Take pictures. Anything that lasts, and is noticeable enough for an adult to put a bandage on, should have been the FIRST thing they told you about at pick up. My daycare tells me if they think there might be a bruise later, or if there is any mark that lasts more than a few minutes I have to sign an incident report. Take the pictures, have a sit down with teacher and director. I would not consider this acceptable at all. I could see an accident, but there should still have been documentation, incident report, and you signing off on it before you went home. The lack of communication would be more concerning to me than the marks.