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i am with my so and he treats me like shit, i was wanting to know that if i left him can he take the kids if i have custody of them and he has vistiation on the weekends only. he cant even help us get a place of our own.
i am talking to a real good friend and he can support me and my kids and is willing to let us live with him and not pay a single bill, but the guy i am with right now would rather spend the money then pay bills. please help me i want out but need to know about the custody thing first.
my ds and dd
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I HAVE CUSTODY OF THE KIDS, HE HAS 3 OTHER KIDS THAT HE DONT EVEN BOTHER TO TAKE CARE OF. WE ARE NOT MARRIED. THE OTHER GUY LOVES MY KIDS. THE ONE I AM WITH HAS A CRIMINAL PAST AND IS ON PROBATION AND DOES NOT EVEN PAY HIS COURT FINES OR CHILD SUPPORT.
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Uhm, im not sure how that works. Do you have a lawyer? Bump and hopefully someone can help you! -
BUMP!
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ugh - sick to my stomach reading this shit.
but no. He can't take custody of the kids just because you leave him. AS long as you can provide a clean home, food, utilities and keep them safe, he can't take them.
Does your "friend" have a criminal past? That might be an issue if so. -
I have no idea.
Here's a good luck bump!
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Sigh. How about YOU step up to the plate and at least TRY to support your children *INSTEAD* of relying on some man.
Gosh, I hate seeing posts like this. Jumping from one man to the next and dragging your kids along for the ride. Smh .
Do you have a job? Do you have a degree, certification, or skill you can put to use to make money?
You CAN be an independent woman who can provide for her kids without needing to depend on a man. -
Just because she is letting a friend help her doesn't mean she isn't trying to support her family. SMH at jumping to conclusions.......
Quoting 3xangel:
Sigh. How about YOU step up to the plate and at least TRY to support your children *INSTEAD* of relying on some man.
Gosh, I hate seeing posts like this. Jumping from one man to the next and dragging your kids along for the ride. Smh .
Do you have a job? Do you have a degree, certification, or skill you can put to use to make money?
You CAN be an independent woman who can provide for her kids without needing to depend on a man.
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Smh at the lack of personal responsibility some people have. Moving her children in with another man IS NOT her supporting her children.
Quoting dlnimo:
Just because she is letting a friend help her doesn't mean she isn't trying to support her family. SMH at jumping to conclusions.......
Quoting 3xangel:
Sigh. How about YOU step up to the plate and at least TRY to support your children *INSTEAD* of relying on some man.
Gosh, I hate seeing posts like this. Jumping from one man to the next and dragging your kids along for the ride. Smh .
Do you have a job? Do you have a degree, certification, or skill you can put to use to make money?
You CAN be an independent woman who can provide for her kids without needing to depend on a man.
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You all are very rude , if you don't got nothing nice to say bounce.
Thanks.
& miss lady he can't unless you prove to the judge that you can provide a safe home for your kids. -
you would have to go to court and get full legal custody, otherwise yes he can take them if he wants and theres nothing you can really do.
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Unless you have a custody order in place he can fail to return the children to you with no consequences.