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She f***ed someone in the bathroom and we think her husband should know. ***EDIT***
November 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM

All us neighbor gals went out for girls night and one of the gals hooked up andscrewed some random stranger in the mens room at the bar. We are all married and we are all friends. Our husbands are all friends with her hubby and we all party together every weekend. DH and the other husbands think someone should tell him what his wife did.

Thoughts?

 

Ok. So I was away for a couple of days and didn't have a chance to keep up with all of the replies.

4 things I would like to address:

a) YES... it was obvious what was going on the bathroom. A bunch of guys at the bar heard the "noise" and took turns entering the bathroom to get a peek. Two gals from our group went INTO the bathroom to make sure it was our friend (we were about to panic because we couldn't find her anywhere). Moments after returning to our table, the manager came to us and kicked her out for her "sexual acts."

b) YES... we party with our neighbors at least one night every weekend. We sit in driveways while the kids play in the culdesac and the adults hang out and have a beer or two. I say party because there are usually at least 15 of us, which to me qualifies as more than a "gathering." lol! My kids do not suffer. I don't drink every weekend. Much of our time is actually spent WITH the kids and all of the neighbors actively keeping an eye on each others children. It's not a booze fest, for those of you who like to make things up for drama sake.

c) For those of you saying STFU???? Right back at you! I'm here seeking your thoughts! Not your judgement. WHERE did I say I was ABSOLUTELY going to tell him? NOwhere... because I came here for your thoughts before making the determination... and I plan on sharing your thoughts with the other neighbor gals who feel the same as I do.

d) OF FUCKING COURSE my husband (and the other gals husbands) know. We all (except for the gal who screwed someone in the bathroom) have healthy marriages and I have told EVERY one of my friends to watch what they tell me because I share EVERYTHING with DH. I make no secret of that. Our friend who chose to involve us so deeply in her personal life also knew this. As for her? We all knew her marriage sucked. But she took advantage of us by putting us all in a really awkward position. If she wanted to go fuck some stranger, she should have done it on her own time and not involved the entire neighborhood. That is selfish and inconsiderate of her! And she didn't even appologize to us OR our friend who had to leave her MEAL to take her home because she got kicked out of the bar.

AND NO! No one has said anything... yet.

Replies

  • kolbiesmommy
    November 13, 2012 at 7:57 PM
    Good God ppl stay out of it. I cant understand why anyone would rat their friend out. I would take that shit to my grave if it were me, but I'm pretty protective of my friends.
  • PestPatti
    November 13, 2012 at 7:57 PM


     Unless she "videoed" it for posterity, you dont know.   And with 765 people "knowing"  her husband is bound to find out..   

  • lovemysnugbugs
    November 13, 2012 at 7:57 PM
    I'd stay out of it.
  • wildlilacs
    November 13, 2012 at 7:58 PM
    Tell, and destroy the marriage and all the friendships. If the hubbys want to tell, its up to them. But they will need proof.
    Talk to your friend, as a friend should.
  • PestPatti
    November 13, 2012 at 7:59 PM


    Quoting kolbiesmommy:

    Good God ppl stay out of it. I cant understand why anyone would rat their friend out. I would take that shit to my grave if it were me, but I'm pretty protective of my friends.

     Exactly..  And I have known most of my friends for over 30 years. 

  • marinesweetie
    November 13, 2012 at 8:00 PM
    Stay out of it
  • grey7399
    November 13, 2012 at 8:00 PM

    So you would protect skanky 'ho over the good husband?  I guess at least you'll be by her side through gonorrhea and syphilis

    Quoting kolbiesmommy:

    Good God ppl stay out of it. I cant understand why anyone would rat their friend out. I would take that shit to my grave if it were me, but I'm pretty protective of my friends.


  • Paperfishies
    November 13, 2012 at 8:01 PM
    Yes, someone needs to tell him that his wife is a nasty whore. No telling what kind of diseases she is giving to him. I could not associate with such nasty trash.
  • StrangeDays
    November 13, 2012 at 8:05 PM
    While this didn't happen to me, I agree about staying out of it. Either way, the husband will be mad, whether you tell him, or you don't tell him. In my opinion, the latter is the lesser of two evils.

    Yes, I would want to know, but I would also be upset with whoever told me, and would probably try to accuse them of lying. It's not worth the headache.


    Quoting celestegood:

     Honestly, I would stay out of it.  Once upon a time, I thought I knew what was best for another person's marriage and took it upon myself to tell the spouse that was cheated on.


    HUGE mistake.


    I would stay out of it.  If she is doing this kind of stuff, he either knows or will soon.

  • rowseylove
    November 13, 2012 at 8:07 PM
    Tough situation... if you tell him you run the risk of him not believing you or even losing him and her as friends... yet if you dont tell and he somehow finds out everyone knew.. i dont know what to tell you... just do what you and your husband feel is right. good luck.

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