All us neighbor gals went out for girls night and one of the gals hooked up andscrewed some random stranger in the mens room at the bar. We are all married and we are all friends. Our husbands are all friends with her hubby and we all party together every weekend. DH and the other husbands think someone should tell him what his wife did.
Ok. So I was away for a couple of days and didn't have a chance to keep up with all of the replies.
4 things I would like to address:
a) YES... it was obvious what was going on the bathroom. A bunch of guys at the bar heard the "noise" and took turns entering the bathroom to get a peek. Two gals from our group went INTO the bathroom to make sure it was our friend (we were about to panic because we couldn't find her anywhere). Moments after returning to our table, the manager came to us and kicked her out for her "sexual acts."
b) YES... we party with our neighbors at least one night every weekend. We sit in driveways while the kids play in the culdesac and the adults hang out and have a beer or two. I say party because there are usually at least 15 of us, which to me qualifies as more than a "gathering." lol! My kids do not suffer. I don't drink every weekend. Much of our time is actually spent WITH the kids and all of the neighbors actively keeping an eye on each others children. It's not a booze fest, for those of you who like to make things up for drama sake.
c) For those of you saying STFU???? Right back at you! I'm here seeking your thoughts! Not your judgement. WHERE did I say I was ABSOLUTELY going to tell him? NOwhere... because I came here for your thoughts before making the determination... and I plan on sharing your thoughts with the other neighbor gals who feel the same as I do.
d) OF FUCKING COURSE my husband (and the other gals husbands) know. We all (except for the gal who screwed someone in the bathroom) have healthy marriages and I have told EVERY one of my friends to watch what they tell me because I share EVERYTHING with DH. I make no secret of that. Our friend who chose to involve us so deeply in her personal life also knew this. As for her? We all knew her marriage sucked. But she took advantage of us by putting us all in a really awkward position. If she wanted to go fuck some stranger, she should have done it on her own time and not involved the entire neighborhood. That is selfish and inconsiderate of her! And she didn't even appologize to us OR our friend who had to leave her MEAL to take her home because she got kicked out of the bar.
AND NO! No one has said anything... yet.
November 16, 2012 at 2:25 AMDo they have an open relationship?
by AliIzzyMomNovember 16, 2012 at 2:34 AMI would tell.
by 1stpreggersNovember 16, 2012 at 2:50 AM
I would say something
I would, because she could have gotten an STD, and wouldn't want her to risk contaminating her husband or her kids with it.And she might not even consider it till it's too late for her husband.
I'd be anoyomous though and write a letter without a return address kind of deal.
by Lydlou02November 16, 2012 at 3:28 AMI can't believe nobody has told him yet. We'd've marched that slut home and said "omg, you know what this bitch did? She got us kicked outta the bar!" And when asked how she did that I'd be sharing the WHOLE story.
It's nit like she did it in secret, the whole fing bar knew what was going on.