Hey everyone, I am not fake, I have been on cafemom before but it was a very long time ago and I can't remember any of my info so I made a new one (just got re-married so I needed a fresh start anyways :))
Okay so my step kids just got here from there moms for the weekend and at dinner sd said that her brother had a sleepover last night with the girl he has a crush on at his bm's house. She said they slept in the same bed. He is 6 and the girl was 7. I find this completely and totally inappropriate. Am I wrong?
So I am reading the responses and just want to clarify a few things. I understand I am the "step mom". I am not poking my nose in her (BM's) business. I just wanted to get ya'lls opinions to see if I was the only one who see's it wrong..
His older sister also said when she walked into the bedroom the girl was sleeping on top of him!!! I think that's just asking for problems later on in life. It may have been meant to be "innocent" but I just find it totally not okay for them to be sharing a bed!
Thanks to everyone for their input. I am not going to say anything to BM, because I agree with ya'll that it's not my place but if it continues to happen my hubby will address it as he see's fit :)
I would not let a boy stay over with my dd. She's 7. When her brothers have boys stay over, I make her sleep in our room just to be safe. I may be paranoid. Surviving child sex abuse can do that a person.
I agree with this. But I do remember having a crush when I was 7. He was a classmate of mine. We did everything together, pretty much. Played astronauts, army, Transformers (hey, it was 1985 for cryin' out loud). Honestly, I don't see the sleepover or them sharing a bed as inappropriate. The adults are making it something it's not.
He has a crush on her? Where is he even learning about that?
At that age I don't see the big deal....except that obviously he is being exposed to grown up feelings that he has no business having. So I think that's where the parenting fail comes in.