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Sleepover with opposite sex at 7 years old in same bed (update)
November 9, 2012 at 8:35 PM

Hey everyone, I am not fake, I have been on cafemom before but it was a very long time ago and I can't remember any of my info so I made a new one (just got re-married so I needed a fresh start anyways :))

Okay so my step kids just got here from there moms for the weekend and at dinner sd said that her brother had a sleepover last night with the girl he has a crush on at his bm's house. She said they slept in the same bed. He is 6 and the girl was 7. I find this completely and totally inappropriate. Am I wrong?

 

Update:

So I am reading the responses and just want to clarify a few things. I understand I am the "step mom". I am not poking my nose in her (BM's) business.  I just wanted to get ya'lls opinions to see if I was the only one who see's it wrong..

His older sister also said when she walked into the bedroom the girl was sleeping on top of him!!! I think that's just asking for problems later on in life. It may have been meant to be "innocent" but I just find it totally not okay for them to be sharing a bed!


Thanks to everyone for their input. I am not going to say anything to BM, because I agree with ya'll that it's not my place but if it continues to happen my hubby will address it as he see's fit :)

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  • christina0607
    November 9, 2012 at 10:13 PM
    He has a crush on her? Where is he even learning about that?

    At that age I don't see the big deal....except that obviously he is being exposed to grown up feelings that he has no business having. So I think that's where the parenting fail comes in.
  • _WC_Mama
    November 9, 2012 at 10:15 PM

    That's not apporpriate at all

  • slashteddy
    November 9, 2012 at 10:16 PM

    I'd be pissed also.

  • kansasmom1978
    November 9, 2012 at 10:21 PM

    I would not let a boy stay over with my dd. She's 7. When her brothers have boys stay over, I make her sleep in our room just to be safe. I may be paranoid. Surviving child sex abuse can do that a person.

  • strictmomhere
    November 9, 2012 at 10:24 PM
    Thats not ok
  • KMAsMommy9182
    November 9, 2012 at 10:53 PM

    He has a crush on her and they slept in the same bed??? 

  • randi1978
    November 10, 2012 at 12:28 AM

    I agree with this.  But I do remember having a crush when I was 7.  He was a classmate of mine.  We did everything together, pretty much.  Played astronauts, army, Transformers (hey, it was 1985 for cryin' out loud).  Honestly, I don't see the sleepover or them sharing a bed as inappropriate.  The adults are making it something it's not.

    Quoting christina0607:

    He has a crush on her? Where is he even learning about that?

    At that age I don't see the big deal....except that obviously he is being exposed to grown up feelings that he has no business having. So I think that's where the parenting fail comes in.


  • Bri060492
    Bri
    November 10, 2012 at 12:32 AM

    I don't think it is right. sadly that isn't your call. you are not their mom and it wasn't your house..

  • mmtosam06
    November 10, 2012 at 12:34 AM

    nope its wrong on all levels

  • Borne_Wonky
    November 10, 2012 at 12:37 AM

    Inappropriate.

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