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February 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM

So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 


  • MamaK88
    by MamaK88
    February 17, 2012 at 5:12 PM

    I kinda agree with her...especially considering how much money is waisted on fertility treatments and IVFs. 

    February 17, 2012 at 5:19 PM

    Quoting Fields456:

    Wow is all I have to say too
  • BigMommaJesca
    February 17, 2012 at 5:23 PM

     Honestly, I completely agree with her, but I would NEVER throw it out there like that, so judgmentally.

  • Mommyof2114
    February 17, 2012 at 5:28 PM
    Well people can have there own opinion. Lol
  • Luv.My.Kidz
    February 17, 2012 at 5:51 PM


  • starlight1968
    February 17, 2012 at 6:10 PM

     sounds to me like she's trying to justify why SHE doesn't want to have kids herself...sad...

  • alreadydidthis
    February 17, 2012 at 6:13 PM
    This.. I normally don't agree with calling ppl bitches but 2thumbs up for that. Lol I have 3 I want another and I want foster kids so she can fuck off lol. Too bad she's not in cm. lol

    Quoting strontium:

    wow.. I get how she feels but to go that far and throw around selfish... im not really even sure what to say to this post.... just.. wow..

  • alreadydidthis
    February 17, 2012 at 6:14 PM

    Quoting BigMommaJesca:

     Honestly, I completely agree with her, but I would NEVER throw it out there like that, so judgmentally.

  • CopperGirl
    February 17, 2012 at 6:32 PM

    My husband and I chose to adopt because my health is not great and we both have biological things we did not want to pass on. To some people it is important to have their own children for whatever reason. Is it selfish? I don't think so. We got our two kids from foster care as babies, so we were lucky I guess. It is all fine and well to think you can just waltz in and adopt from foster care or international orphanages and it is going to be this rosy fairytale story, but it is not, and it is not that easy either. I do kind of suspect this woman is a little like my husband...he gets a real charge from being "saintlike" and adopting from foster care,which I think is absurd and it annoys the heck out of me, but some people are just that way. You can't help her, she obviously has some issues. Good luck with #3.

  • windwoman21
    February 17, 2012 at 6:37 PM

    Sounds more like she wants a pat on the back for being so "Wonderful"

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