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February 16, 2012 at 10:07 PM

So I went to a business dinner with my husband that included a few men from his firm and their wives/so to welcome a new partner.  Since I'd never met the new guys wife before myself and some others were making polite conversation and i asked if she had any children.  She replied they had 2 daughters from China and a son from Russia, she showed us a picture from her purse and told us a bit about them.  I mentioned that they were adorable and that my aunt also had a daughter from China, because she couldn't conceive (i was not insinuating that was her issue at al) She said "ohh no no no. I'm fully fertile.  We just feel with so many homeless, starving children in the world it is just very selfish to have children.  There are too many that need good homes and yet people just keep bringing more children in to a world of limited resources.  Its just awful" At this point every person at the table kind of silenced.  Her husband tried to kin of smooth it over and turned it a little sayig like Oh she means you know more people keep having kids they can't care for its so sad.  She cut him right off and said "no I mean no one in general should be creating children when there are so many out there that need help.It's just so selfish and it's so egotistical how people think they have to mark their territory on the world by planting their seed" AWKWARD! 

Listen I get what she is saying and I think adoption is wonderful..but who the hell says having your own kids is selfish and egotistical? Sorry bitch but we have 2 gorgeous children we made and raise and are working on #3..if that makes me a selfish, egotistical resource waster so be it! lol

Her husband who is technically one of my husband's bosses approached everyone  today who was there and personally apologized and said he had hoped his wifes comments did not offend anyone.  My husband of course said no problem at all...but you can bet they all think this chick is a crazy bitch. 


  • VLY
    by VLY
    February 17, 2012 at 3:39 PM

    I find it selfish that she had THAT kind of money to waste on adopting ONE child when that money could have fed WAY more people many times over! 28,000 is a little over HALF what my hubby makes in a YEAR!!!

    Thats one expensive kid once you factor in the time for the paperwork, the background checks, and the overseas plane trips/visits

  • bozobean
    February 17, 2012 at 3:42 PM

    That's the first thing that came to my mind about what to write; Did he marry Angelina Jolie? LOL! Now I know I'm not the only one who thought that.

    Quoting dommad2:

    No, Angelina had her selfish moments too

    Quoting ChloeDolce:

    Quoting Mrs.VanDeKamp:

    She just wants to be the next angelina jolie lol

    LMAO That is what one of the other women said too!

  • luvcloudydays
    February 17, 2012 at 3:45 PM

    oh yeah, you know, it's not like one of our soul purposes as living beings is to reproduce...

  • chocolat-smiles
    February 17, 2012 at 3:49 PM

    Quoting Mrs.VanDeKamp:

    She just wants to be the next angelina jolie lol

     Heck, even angelina jolie has 3 bio kids on top of the 3 she adopted! lol

  • bozobean
    February 17, 2012 at 3:53 PM

    That's the first thing that popped into my mind too. LMAO!

    Quoting Mrs.VanDeKamp:

    She just wants to be the next angelina jolie lol

  • olliesmommy2
    February 17, 2012 at 3:53 PM

     Know your audience before saying something like that is a good idea, unless she really doesnt care if shes a rude asshole.

  • i.heart.nerds
    February 17, 2012 at 3:55 PM
    Oh gosh. I think I would have had a hard time not laughing. Are any of you ladies visibly pregnant? Because that would make it worse!
  • la_bella_vita
    February 17, 2012 at 4:00 PM


  • M3Love
    by M3Love
    February 17, 2012 at 4:04 PM

    Yikes! I'm glad she didn't procreate LOL

  • BekaBug
    by BekaBug
    February 17, 2012 at 4:11 PM

    wow. i get where shes coming from too but what an inappropriate thing to say. dh and i have two bio children and one on the way. dh is thinking of adding #4, im iffy. once we get back to the states and are children are older (come July we'll have three under three) we may start to foster. i think its only selfish when people keeping having children they can not care for.

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