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if you wanted to be the f'ingmom- why didnt u just say here?!
by Shy_Dia
May 24, 2010 at 4:34 PM

my mom is in australia right now.. my dad is in Japan... leaving me in charge of my 12 year old little brother...


so my mom calls and lets my brother know that he's allowed to stay at his friends house for the next two nights... monday and tuesday night... even tho they have school... even tho SHE'S NOT FUCKING HERE! if she wanted to be the mom, and wanted to be in charge of her son- then why the hell didnt she fucking stay here?! she pisses me off so fucking much!


at this point, i'm about to just say fuck it and let my 12 year old brother make the rules according to what HE wants to do. why not? everyone else is letting him!



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  • cricketdawn81
    May 24, 2010 at 4:37 PM

    Hugs!!! 

  • CariO.
    by CariO.
    May 24, 2010 at 4:39 PM

    Hang in there! 

  • aleciamarie
    May 24, 2010 at 4:40 PM

    Is she on vacation or did she permanently move there giving you custody of your brother?  I would still think she has parental authority if she is just away on a trip and not gone forever...

  • sati769leigh
    May 24, 2010 at 4:40 PM

    sorry this is happening but if you are the responsible adult for him, she has NO CALL on anyhting righ tnow.

  • scaredoflabor
    May 24, 2010 at 4:43 PM

     if he is in your care and your in charge of him you make the rules. Dont give up on him look out into the world of murder and robbery and sex offenders even pott heads and drunks and think do you want him to Possibly go down that road? Not saying he will but giving up and letting him makethe rules at that age thats what could happen. Tell your mom how you feel and if she wants to be his mom then she needs to come back its that simple

  • mommymandaleigh
    May 24, 2010 at 4:44 PM

    If you are in charge and responsible for his welfare I would let him know that it doesn't matter what his momma says and if he doesn't like it then she needs to come get him !!

  • Army_Wife41
    May 24, 2010 at 4:45 PM

    This. If she doesn't like it...she should go pick him up.

    Quoting sati769leigh:

    sorry this is happening but if you are the responsible adult for him, she has NO CALL on anyhting righ tnow.


  • Shy_Dia
    by Shy_Dia
    May 24, 2010 at 10:06 PM

    he's already going down the road of drugs-- I can see it, there was proof in front of my parents' face, but they refused to see it! with my dad, he has SOME limits (be home by 10pm).. with my mom- he has NO limits-- stay outside all day, never come home, etc. i see him going down the path of having sex- myparents are blind to it.. uhh-- who's teh one watching soft porn cuz it sure isnt MY regular videos. lol (yea- i watch porn, but i'm old enough lol)..

     

    but she moved there permanently. she goes every 3 months, for 3 months, for teh last 6+ years.... but this time, her DD's dad's boss gave her a job, got her visa done-- and she moved there. technically, its my dad who has custody (as well as her-- but i have none)... but since he's in Japan, there's no way that HE can be in charge of anything right now either, leaving me.. and she's always trying to overstep what we (dad included) say b/c she's "the mom" even if she's not even here! pisses me off so much!

    if i confront her/tell her how i feel- she'll just threaten to take him away, and that'll just lead him down a worst path- she doesnt want to spend any time with him, she thinks he's not interested in girls/sex.. he watches porn and has a "girlfriend". ugh

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