what do you do when

[mommy06and09]

your kids fight? my kids are 7 and almost 4. i need some new ideas cause im sick of jumping in... thanks!

[steelcrazy]

 If there is no blood or risk of serious injury, then I don't want to hear about it.  You need to figure it out on your own.  Honestly, it is important for kids to learn how to solve their own problems, how to negotiate, and how to get along with others.  Siblings are great at teaching each other these skills if their parents let them. 

So in a nutshell, quit jumping in and leave them to handle it on their own.

[rsrangel]

I feel your pain! I have 4 kids, ages 8, 6, 5, & 4. The fighting gets on my last nerve at times! Hoping someone can offer up advice for you, because I could use some to! I normally either ignore it, or separate mine and make them play alone. I do find that when I give them tasks, art projects, or play with them, the fighting stops. But I know it's hard at times especially when you need to make dinner, clean, or just want a break!

[momtoBrenna]

My kids are also 7 and 4 (almost 5) and I also let them work it out whenever possible. That has been the case for quite some time now. 

[Mommynwife26]

I've been letting them fight it out, I have 2 6yr olds and I am so tired of it that I am allowing them to duke it out, even if it gets physical (they don't hit mostly pinch or push). Figure they will work out their issues.

[jamianne]

This.  I have a 6 and a 4 year old and usually let them work it out on their own.  They don't get to the point where I have to intervene that often.  Unless someone is hurt, I'll give them a warning to either settle it or stop before I get involved - and that's usually only if I'm completely fed up with listening to it or it's to the point of potentially disturbing the neighbors (ie banging on the floors or walls or excessive screaming).  They usually settle things pretty quickly by themselves then because we give them both consequences if we have to intervene.

Quoting steelcrazy:

 If there is no blood or risk of serious injury, then I don't want to hear about it.  You need to figure it out on your own.  Honestly, it is important for kids to learn how to solve their own problems, how to negotiate, and how to get along with others.  Siblings are great at teaching each other these skills if their parents let them. 

So in a nutshell, quit jumping in and leave them to handle it on their own.

[steelcage]

Seperate them, take away whatever they are fighting over, ground if need be.

[aetrom]

I too usually let them work it out. If they are bothering me then i send them to a different place or if it keeps happening i give the warning "if your brother cries everyone will be in trouble." (They usually get very careful then. ;)

[la_bella_vita]

I tell them to figure it out their own or they take some "me" time

[alexsmomaubrys2]

Separate them.

[wakymom]

 Depends on what they're fighting about. Sometimes I step in(if one is being a bit of a "bully"), sometimes I separate them (if it's been going on for too long or I'm afraid they might start hitting- which they usually don't), and other times I make them work it out.