VintageWife
Normal or not?
October 14, 2012 at 9:50 PM

My 5 yr old sat down with the magnadoodle yesterday and started writing out math problems. He was speaking them aloud as he did. I heard him saying things like, "9+5 is 14, -1 from that is 13....." Later he was talking about wanting to play Candy Land and he said "You know, candy and land both have a-n-d in them and they are in the same order in each word."

His teacher says he is very advanced but he is very immature behavior wise. I agree with that. He's been having tantrums lately about everything. When he is not acting like a 2 yr old though, he seems more like he is 10+.

How would you work on the immaturity? I don't know what brought it on, but it's really annoying. He'll do stuff like ask the teacher to go to the bathroom and she'll tell him to use the one in the room and that'll lead to a meltdown because he likes the one in the hall better. Or he'll flip out because a green crayon is not available (he is verrrrrry obsessed with green) or things like that.

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  • Lydlou02
    October 14, 2012 at 9:57 PM
    To me it sounds like aspergers. Super-smart, socially immature, and obsessive.

    Of course you should take that with a grain of salt. 2 of my 3 kids are on the spectrum, and the third is only 10m, so I know a lot about the signs of ASD, but not much about what else it has similar red flags.
  • VintageWife
    October 14, 2012 at 9:59 PM

     

    Quoting Lydlou02:

    To me it sounds like aspergers. Super-smart, socially immature, and obsessive.

    Of course you should take that with a grain of salt. 2 of my 3 kids are on the spectrum, and the third is only 10m, so I know a lot about the signs of ASD, but not much about what else it has similar red flags.

    My husband has Asperger's. I brought up the idea and the teacher was like no, I think it's add. She was like he doesn't focus well but he isn't hyper. Our oldest is severly adhd and o.d.d. Then the counselor said the same thing. They think there is no chance it's Asperger's. I see it, but noone else does.

  • my4littlegirls
    October 14, 2012 at 10:15 PM
    I would make an appt with your doc. Maybe he can refer you to a doc that can diagnose him with something proper. I have to speak to my dd4's doc about her anxiety issues. She flips out over the smallest things but its more because she is afraid than anything.
  • Lydlou02
    October 14, 2012 at 10:15 PM
    Considering ASD (while not proven to be genetic) tends to run in families, it's pretty strange nobody seems to consider it.

    I've just remembered fragile X is similar to ASD.

    Teachers and conselers aren't medical professionals though. It might be best to see a specialist.

    Or you could try using social stories and other therapies at home. You don't need an official diagnosis to help him be more comfortable with social interaction.


    Quoting VintageWife:

     


    Quoting Lydlou02:

    To me it sounds like aspergers. Super-smart, socially immature, and obsessive.

    Of course you should take that with a grain of salt. 2 of my 3 kids are on the spectrum, and the third is only 10m, so I know a lot about the signs of ASD, but not much about what else it has similar red flags.

    My husband has Asperger's. I brought up the idea and the teacher was like no, I think it's add. She was like he doesn't focus well but he isn't hyper. Our oldest is severly adhd and o.d.d. Then the counselor said the same thing. They think there is no chance it's Asperger's. I see it, but noone else does.

  • VintageWife
    October 14, 2012 at 10:18 PM

    The weird thing is he is social as far as talking to other people. He'll go to another child and say "I'm Caleb, you wanna be my friend? Let's go on the slide." but when it comes time to sit in social situations not on a playground, he has meltdowns.  

    Quoting Lydlou02:

    Considering ASD (while not proven to be genetic) tends to run in families, it's pretty strange nobody seems to consider it.

    I've just remembered fragile X is similar to ASD.

    Teachers and conselers aren't medical professionals though. It might be best to see a specialist.

    Or you could try using social stories and other therapies at home. You don't need an official diagnosis to help him be more comfortable with social interaction.


    Quoting VintageWife:

     


    Quoting Lydlou02:

    To me it sounds like aspergers. Super-smart, socially immature, and obsessive.

    Of course you should take that with a grain of salt. 2 of my 3 kids are on the spectrum, and the third is only 10m, so I know a lot about the signs of ASD, but not much about what else it has similar red flags.

    My husband has Asperger's. I brought up the idea and the teacher was like no, I think it's add. She was like he doesn't focus well but he isn't hyper. Our oldest is severly adhd and o.d.d. Then the counselor said the same thing. They think there is no chance it's Asperger's. I see it, but noone else does.

     

  • VintageWife
    October 14, 2012 at 10:20 PM

     

    Quoting my4littlegirls:

    I would make an appt with your doc. Maybe he can refer you to a doc that can diagnose him with something proper. I have to speak to my dd4's doc about her anxiety issues. She flips out over the smallest things but its more because she is afraid than anything.

    His doctor (ped) has remarked on how smart he is. Last time he was at the doc, he was telling him about the bones in the body and how they work and everything. But something as small as them forgetting to give him a sticker can ruin his day (and mine).

  • my4littlegirls
    October 14, 2012 at 10:25 PM


    Quoting VintageWife:

     

    Quoting my4littlegirls:

    I would make an appt with your doc. Maybe he can refer you to a doc that can diagnose him with something proper. I have to speak to my dd4's doc about her anxiety issues. She flips out over the smallest things but its more because she is afraid than anything.

    His doctor (ped) has remarked on how smart he is. Last time he was at the doc, he was telling him about the bones in the body and how they work and everything. But something as small as them forgetting to give him a sticker can ruin his day (and mine).

    Jeanne gets weird like that too.  Like today in the bathtub she was laying on her back but when I asked her to do it to helo "rinse" her hair she threw a hissy fit because she was scared to do it.

  • soymujer
    October 14, 2012 at 10:48 PM

    That is great  that he can do that!  My 7 year old is starting to do math at home!

  • Karen_S
    by Karen_S
    October 14, 2012 at 10:56 PM


    Quoting VintageWife:

     

    Quoting my4littlegirls:

    I would make an appt with your doc. Maybe he can refer you to a doc that can diagnose him with something proper. I have to speak to my dd4's doc about her anxiety issues. She flips out over the smallest things but its more because she is afraid than anything.

    His doctor (ped) has remarked on how smart he is. Last time he was at the doc, he was telling him about the bones in the body and how they work and everything. But something as small as them forgetting to give him a sticker can ruin his day (and mine).

    So it sounds like you talked to your ped about him being academically advanced, but did you talk to him about the behavior? I think your ped your best first point of contact about your concerns, and whether he should get an evaluation. 

  • VintageWife
    October 14, 2012 at 10:57 PM

     

    Quoting Karen_S:

     

    Quoting VintageWife:

     

    Quoting my4littlegirls:

    I would make an appt with your doc. Maybe he can refer you to a doc that can diagnose him with something proper. I have to speak to my dd4's doc about her anxiety issues. She flips out over the smallest things but its more because she is afraid than anything.

    His doctor (ped) has remarked on how smart he is. Last time he was at the doc, he was telling him about the bones in the body and how they work and everything. But something as small as them forgetting to give him a sticker can ruin his day (and mine).

    So it sounds like you talked to your ped about him being academically advanced, but did you talk to him about the behavior? I think your ped your best first point of contact about your concerns, and whether he should get an evaluation. 

    He was just there for a regular appt and got to talking to the doctor. I didn't bring anything up then. It was a few months ago before shool started.