I enjoy those shows as well. Some of the outfits that are worn on Wizards of Waverly Pace, I want.
I also think that some adults tend to sexualize things that are actually innocent.
I'm reminded of a picture I was shown. It was of a man and a woman about to get intimate. There were also dolphins in the picture. They showed this picture to I think 5 year olds. And all they saw were the dolphins on the picture. Where as the adults saw the two people and missed the dolphins completely.
Unless the stuff is literal and blatantly sexual, I think kids probably see it as innocent things happening. LIke a mother breast feeding an infant. Some adult would be appalled at that. I'm not. SOme kids might not even know what is going on and ask. Once explained that the mom is feeding her baby they will just say okay.
why do we get all bent out of shape over the human body?
None that I have noticed. They are shows about teens so some dating drama is to be expected, but nothing I am worried about DD watching, although I did not like her watching them when she was under school age.