PLEASE HELP- Sexual Abuse???
January 18, 2008 at 7:56 PM
I just started my daughter at daycare this week. She is 19 months old. Tonight my husband was giving her a bath and when he was drying her off, he gently parted her privates to make sure it was dry and clean, like we always do. But she squirmed in discomfort and said "hurt". I don't want to jump to conclusions, but you can't help it. Her actual vaginal opening seems more open as well. And I may be making myself see things, but there appears to be a small crack or mark at the bottom of her vagina. She loves her daycare and I don't want to accuase the lady because she seems wonderful. Is there a medical explanation for her pain? What should I do next?
by SerenaRose3January 18, 2008 at 8:01 PMits really hard to say, my daughter says owie when i wipe her somtimes, and there is no way she is abused , she is only with me. What do u use for soaps and wipes?, those can have chemicals that are irritating, i changed the products i use on her. You can have her checked out, if your concerned , i would if it really bothered me.
January 18, 2008 at 8:02 PMif you feel she may have something wrong going on just take her to her doctor. they will let you know if she has been touched in an inappropriate way. You can explain your concern and ask them to check her.
by Dawn100173January 18, 2008 at 8:03 PMTalk to her pediatrician. She may have a UTI, or yeast infection starting, or she may have been touching herself. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions just yet, but talk to her doctor for advice.
by Izzys_Mom06January 18, 2008 at 8:03 PMWe use the same stuff as we always have. I thought of that too. She's never done anything like this. She is acting ok otherwise though. I think I will take her to the DR. anyway. I wouldn't want to ignore it and find out too late. Thanks everyone.
January 18, 2008 at 8:28 PMplease take her to get checked!! the daycare lady may seem nice, but a fox lives in sheeps clothing.
sadly, i do know what i am talking about here...my kids were molested. and it was by the nicest person.
i am praying that its just an infection, or something else.
by jdmgirlJanuary 18, 2008 at 9:14 PMHi!
Are you sure your daughter does not have a yeast infection. Sometimes bubbles can do that in a bath. But you know the difference when looking at her. You have to go with your gut feeling. You may have to ask your daughter why does it hurt down there. She may just tell you. If at all you suspect call Child Protective Services, and your local police dept. You may want to go to your daughter's ped and ask her to give your daughter and exam. Your daughter's doctor will know right away. I hope all will be ok. I will be praying for you and your family.