You would think with all of the news we've heard about sex addiction in the past few years, there'd be no doubt that it's a real addiction, much like drug or alcohol addiction. But a new study shockingly says sex addiction is no addiction at all! The study says that people who have so-called "sex addictions" are really just people who like to -- get ready for this shocker -- have a lot of sex.
The study showed "hypersexual" people -- the types who engage in a lot of sex or have had serious repercussions over their sexual exploits -- pictures of people having sex and expected that their brain waves would "spike" the same way that cocaine addicts have a brain spike when shown pics of toot. But apparently that didn't happen.
Sure, maybe some people need more sex just the way some people need more water or sleep, and this doesn't make him or her an "addict." But hopefully those people are figuring out how to do lots and lots of shebanging without ruining their lives or those of their spouses.
Perhaps the problem is that "hypersexual" people live in a society that demands fidelity to an extreme degree (like sex with one person for the next 50 years -- yeah, that's extreme), and they don't quite realize that they are hypersexual until they've walked down the aisle. But I would say in that case, better to get divorced than to cheat with anyone you can get your hands on.
Other experts say that sex addiction -- even sexting addiction -- is quite real. And considering a bonafide sexting addict might be the next mayor of New York City, this is quite a newsy topic.
I don't believe that it is. The people that I am working with don't believe that it is.
Okay, Anthony, but the "people" you work with are 22-year-old high school dropouts who are sexting you back, so that doesn't count. Haha. Anyway, I can't quite decide if Anthony is deluded or he's being refreshingly candid, given that everyone is so quick to blame their foibles on an addiction these days.
Some psychologists (obviously not the ones "treating" Anthony) say sexting addiction is quite real. I personally believe that any compulsion you have an overriding desire to engage in, even if it is to your detriment, is an addiction of sorts.
Even if there's no big negative consequences but you are using the activity, whatever it is, to avoid your thoughts, feelings, intimacy, or clarity -- that is addiction-like behavior. If you consistently choose to fiddle with your iPhone rather than engage in actual conversation with an actual human being, that's an addiction, IMHO.
Remember, everything in moderation!
Do you think sex addiction is real?
by AnonymousJuly 26 at 2:13 PM
i believe that sex can be an addiction just like drugs or alchol
I think you can "reprogram" your brain to think that you need sex. However, I do not believe it's an addiciton. Addiction is defined as a physical need, not mental. If you're not physically addicted to something, such as alcohal, nicotine, etc. then how is it an addiction? Liking something to a fault, or a point of it becoming a maniac about it, itsn't an addiction; it's an excuse. I love to run and exercise. I literally dread missing out on a workout or run. I get a natural high from it. My body reacts in a very physical way while I'm running. I feel like all of my senses are acute and my mind is focused, I'm happy as can be. I love having sore muscles the day after a workout b/c I know I worked hard. However that may be, I really, really like the physical and mental affects of workingout. It's not b/c I'm "addicted" it's b/c I've gotten my body used to it.
by AnonymousJuly 27 at 12:15 PM
an addiction, its how they get there rush!! for them its like being hooked up to a dopamine drip.. i am married to a sex addict.. well cyber sex addict.. we are in counseling now
by HappyGirl77July 30 at 7:10 AM
I think it could be a real addiction...however if my husband tried to use it as an excuse for bad behavior I would laugh and then promptly leave...just saying!