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What do you do when he wants more kids & you don't?
by Anonymous
July 19, 2013 at 10:50 AM

My husband and I have 3 kids together, 5, 7, and 8. He's started dropping hints about wanting another one but I'm exhausted from the 3 we have. I've told him I like having 3 and don't want more but he keeps trying to make me change my mind.

What can I do to get him to understand?

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  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    July 19, 2013 at 10:51 AM
    Should be talked about before marriage. I say if he wants more he can get pregnant.
  • MichelleK41
    July 19, 2013 at 11:13 AM

    I'd give him a weekend alone with the kids and then go from there. ;)

  • peggytoo
    July 20, 2013 at 8:55 AM


    Quoting MichelleK41:

    I'd give him a weekend alone with the kids and then go from there. ;)

    ...maybe a whole bunch of weekends.  Also  that would defuse some of the frazzle in your life.  I raised four, and I look back and can't figure out how I did it.  It was great though when hubs had them for some weekends.

  • pittymama
    July 20, 2013 at 1:08 PM

    like this idea

    Quoting MichelleK41:

    I'd give him a weekend alone with the kids and then go from there. ;)


  • Madelaine
    July 20, 2013 at 1:19 PM

    We discussed it before marriage.

  • Madelaine
    July 20, 2013 at 1:19 PM

    Ha!  Agreed!!


    Quoting MichelleK41:

    I'd give him a weekend alone with the kids and then go from there. ;)



  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    July 20, 2013 at 1:23 PM

    I have no clue, this is a fear of mine. I have one and want no more, if I ever find a new partner it will have to be one who doesn't have kids (preferably) and doesn't want kids, but will accept the one I have. You know?... It sucks. And I feel like I eventually will be convinced on having another if I get into a relationship.

  • Bmat
    by Bmat
    July 20, 2013 at 7:55 PM

    Having another child really has to be agreed on by both people. It is totally unfair and may damage the relationship for it to be a one person decision when the other has said no. What I suggest when one wants another child and the other doesn't is that they agree to discuss it in 6 months (or a year) and see how they both feel then. The time can even be extended for a while. But meanwhile no pressuring. If he simply won't listen to you, then get couples counseling. Good luck!

  • Bmat
    by Bmat
    July 20, 2013 at 7:56 PM

    LOL yes!!

    Quoting MichelleK41:

    I'd give him a weekend alone with the kids and then go from there. ;)


  • rayroe2
    by rayroe2
    July 20, 2013 at 7:58 PM
    My husband wants five kids. I only ever wanted too. I live being pregnant so we are planning on four.

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