I would stop talking to him. Just ignore him completely because "pulling out" doesnt guarantee not getting preg. He could have insisted on wearing a condom etc. At the end of the day, you are preg and you didnt get that way on your own. I would just not talk to him until he agrees to discuss it all. You both need to discuss it all and clear the air.
your husband had the option to have a condom on. Im glad im not married to such a damn baby. He screwed a woman who wasnt on BC. What did he expect? He knew you wanted a kid yet he put you in charge of stopping?
it takes two to make a baby... if he didn't want another child yet, he should have put a cap on that sailor. But you're not off the hook either. He was very clear and explicit that he wasn't ready to have another child. No protection will eventually end in another child. Since he told you this, why did you go ahead and attempt to get pregnant anyway? Defiance? Not good, not good at all. There a thousand ways to avoid pregnancy and you chose NONE of them. I'd wait a little while, then have a heart ot heart with him. Explain that his comments hurt you very deeply. Apologize for your part in this fiasco. And make sure, no matter what, this newest one never wants for love.
by Anonymous 5
January 19, 2013 at 6:38 PM
quit making comments is the only suggestion I can give. My husband did not want our third either. He loves him, but he has always treated him differently than he did the two girls. Since he was the third, he did not know any difference, but I did, and it has always hurt my heart to know my son did not get better treatment from his dad when his dad could have taken care of it. I always tried to do extra for him because of it.
Well it's kind of to late to do much of anything about it now. You've wanted a child so I'd say GO FOR IT. Once they're conceived they are "human" and if you're like I was, you'll be already on cloud nine, and wanting to get this and that ready for the new arrival etc etc. When the baby is born, you may find that your husband isn;t so bad after all LOL. When our first baby was on the way, and I went into labour, my husband didn't want to be in the room with me. I persuaded him to stay and help me get through the labour. He finally did stay, and when I got pregnant with my other two children, He automatically came with me and helped whenever it was needed. It really is harder on the men LOL, they just don't understand how much we as women go through sometimes. I'd try to get through this pregnancy as best you can, and hope that when the child is born that he/she will be loved more than you expected. On another note, I'm one of Eight children, the oldest girl, with only one brother older than me. I helped my mother care for my siblings, and thought it to be the best thing. I wanted to care for them, and loved every minute of it. When I got pregnant and had my first child, I was rudely awakened to the fact that he was MINE and I couldn't give him back LOL but I soon learned to love having my own baby. Believe it or not, I loved the night time feedings too. It gave me some extra special time with each child.