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so, i have a question about funeral,
when a loved one dies, do you call and notify people of the service, send them a card? i am confused how do you get people to show up to the funeral to say good bye?
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Good friends and family, yes you call them. Others you hope see it in the paper. Once you get older you look every day at the obituaries. Also word of mouth, some pass the word after you call. My brother, sil and I spent a good 2 hours calling after my mom died.
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I think you sort of get a call chain going.
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I would say anyone very close to that person deserves a phone call.
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Yes, everyone gets a call. My attitude on who gets on the list is - if my guess is that they would have liked to have been notified, then they are on the list. Me and my sibs (4 of us) split up the list, we went through my dad's address book to make the list and then conferred to review it and identify people not yet listed who should be. For the cousins, we called the head of that family branch - like Uncle Dick, and asked him if he could notify his 3 adult kids. On the call we got their email addresses and cell phones, if we didn't already have them, of the folks coming in from out of town, so we could more easily email them later the details, like what hotel do we have a block of rooms reserved, address and directions to the funeral home, church and cemetary. The in town folks we just said what funeral home, and the date the notice will be in the paper for details, and the date of the wake if we knew it, otherwise we advised them to check the notice in the paper (and online at the paper).
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Everyone close to you deserves a call. We've had to plan several funerals in the last 6 years and what we've done is we've called close friends and family and they, in turn, will call others to notify. It's a tough time and it's very busy, so we had always asked others to let people know and they've been more than happy to oblige.
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Call people and most people will see the obituary in the paper
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When my mother passed away my brother called me I called my aunt and my aunt called all the rest of the family. I also called all her friends in her phone book and emailed everyone in her email box ..... and some friends read it in the paper.