I never thought there was anything wrong with NIPing. I did used to think that some women shouldn't hang their entire breast out while doing it and basically that ALL women should cover.
That was before I saw all the negativity that is out there about Nursing in Public. I have become so annoyed by the things that have happened to women. Some that I know and some that are perfect strangers.
I was raised by a mother who started the trend in her family to nurse. Boobs have been on display in houses, and at family gatherings my whole life. I never even knew that women gave formula to babies just because they wanted to until I was 16 and a friend of mine got pregnant and she formula fed her baby because she didn't want to nurse. Even if there was a medical problem I figured the mother just didn't know anyone else who was nursing at the time and so had to resort to formula. Due to the fact that my mother nursed a friends baby because her mother had to have surgery.(funny story: the 16 year old friend who had a baby and formula fed was the girl my mom nursed) So nursing is all I have known my whole life there was no hesitation in my mind I would nurse. Also luckily I am a "can feed the neighborhood" producer and didn't struggle much except with latch.
So with all that said I didn't understand why women were so adiment about nursing uncovered in public to "normalize" breastfeeding. I figured cover around strangers and don't around family because for me breastfeeding was normal and I had never experienced negative feedback about nursing. Then I joined cafemom and joined this group. HOLY CRAP people are stupid and mean. I may have had my hangups about too much boob showing but I never said anything to a mother or anyone except my husband about it. The things some of you women have gone through and now a friend/sister has gone through I don't care and probably will congratulate any woman I see nursing uncovered. Not sure if I have the guts to do it myself I am very self-conscience about people looking at me in public in general, so that's a whole nother issue. I have learned about the 2 shirt method which I didn't know about before so I may try that with baby #2 since DD has self-weaned. I know a cover is probably going to attract more attention sometimes but it may be the only way I can leave the house comfortably.
Anyway with that long explination I have changed my mind from previously thinking ALL women should cover while nursing in public to, Do whatever you are most comfortable with and people around you will have to get over it. If you want to use a cover great, if you want to do the 2 shirt method great, use a sling or carrier great, pull shirt down and nurse pull shirt up and nurse great. It's all great! :)
Even my husband the other day said (we are military and there is a dresscode on Bases which is rarely to never enforced) about a guys with his pants below his butt walking onto base, "He doesn't get told to pull his pants up. But a mother nurses her baby in the commissary and suddenly dresscode matters. Something that has been done since the begining of mankind." That made me smile.
Sorry this was so long but I had to share this with you ladies because My mind changed mostly from all of you.
Thank you for your thoughts. I also was more comfortable nursing discretely. In fact, my own mother made me mad by saying what I was doing was like a man exposing himself. I told her it was not. First of all, a man has no legitimate reason for that; I, on the other hand, was doing what God intended to be done with breasts. Besides, you couldn't see anything. She eventually got over it.
by CorinnesinghOctober 25, 2013 at 10:57 AM
Yes, u r right.. It is because if what happened with my 8 yr old son, that I don't NIP... So I stay home ALOT, or make sure I have an emegency pump in my diaper bag..
When I had my older dh, he was 2 weeks old, and I was in the pharmacy , waiting for his prescription to be filled for reflux... The pharmacist came out from the counter , into the waiting area,where I was sitting, and said..... " you will have to do that somewhere else" may I remind you I was totally covered, she only knew what I was doing because I was covered.. I refused to leave , and she had me so upset, the baby unlatched and milk just squirt all over him. He started screaming, I started screaming. It was a mess...
So for that I have yet to NIP with Arjun, and he will be two months soon...
I nurse in public all the time on post and no one has every said crap to me. I'd dare them. :)
But, I'm glad you're more accepting of nursing in public now. I've never used a cover. My first two didn't like them and I got tired with fighting it. :)
I NIP with my sons... no way will I leave a place because I am BFing... or cover up more than I normally do... [[just with a blanket over my chest... covered up as best as I can]] People have been nursing since the beginning of time... Way long ago... there was no formula... people have made feeding their babies taboo... which is sad...
I love your post!! I Nurse covered or uncovred depending on where i am..what im whering..and the mood of baby. He is a 5m 20 pound baby who wiggles ALL the time!! sometimes its easier to just pulldown my shirt and latch him on. im happy he is happy. if i try to cover and he is wid awake and wiggles it draws way to much attention. I went to a steet fair walked around uncovered and no one said a thing! but i when i went to the mall and sat in a nearly empty area i got scowls and acutally had someone come up to me because baby was fussing with cover.
I have gone to several palces uncovred and have received great responces. OMG ROFL i had gone to church couple weeks ago. great church. I was sitting in back feeding him and a little old lady moved to sit beside me. she just talked and talk and was so proud of what i was doing. the next weekend i was going to take my normal place but she and some ohter ladies called me up to sit with them. He got fussy and was going to move but they made me sit right there and told me not to feel imberessed. Turnsout they do a breastfeeding mommys group once a month. but once he was done eating he had there hearts. he was talking and giggling and laughing!! He got passed around so much! Such a cutie!
I have three years and counting of nip and have never had a bad experience outside of one or two uncomfortable glances. (The discomfort being on their side not mine). I'm discreet but don't cover. I don't think we need to be in people's faces with it, but the more we do it the more comfortable and normal it feels for all.