♥L-AMP: Loving Alternatives to Mainstream Parenting♥
anybody reading or have read this book?
my local friends and I are reading it as part of our own parenting book club, I am not very far into the book but thought you all might be interested in it as well.
from http://www.parentingforsocialchange.com/order-book.html
"This is a brilliant book-- provocative and passionate."
~Charles F. Behling, parent and former Co-director of the Program on Intergroup Relations
"The depth of analysis is superb."
~Bob Collier, The Parental Intelligence Newsletter
"Wonderful,
thoughtful, and honest book....Teresa offers her experience, her
insight, and her authentic self from her own journey from parental
control to parental partnership."
~MJ, Wander Wonder Discover
Learn More About the Book
Parenting for Social Change, the book, debunks the myth that control is an essential parenting tool using current research. It challenges us to think about our mainstream views of childhood and how those views perpetuate control and coercion of children. Want to know more...see the chapter descriptions below.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Dynamics of Control
Read
about the differences between power and control and how control is
normalized as an essential parenting tool to ensure children grow up
into healthy and responsible adults. We'll begin the process of
questioning control as a social norm.
Chapter 2: Ways We Control Children
Often
we don't question or even see the ways we control children. In this
chapter, we'll discuss the control of children's bodies, emotional
expressions, food, media access, social skills, and learning. I include
some of my own stories of letting go of being a controlling parent.
Chapter 3. Controlling Parenting versus Supportive Parenting
We'll look more closely at the current research on control versus supportive parenting and advocate for a new view of childhood.
Chapter 4. Steps Toward Liberation and Freedom
In
this chapter, we’ll move into the process of letting go of control and
transforming ourselves to create different perspectives and
relationships with children through our internal work as parents.
Chapter 5: Tools for Transformation and Change
We’ll
discuss strategies for moving through our feelings as parents in order
to create the opportunities children (and adults) need to learn and
develop in ways that create a deeper connection to who they are as
individuals and human beings.
Chapter 6: Conclusion
Finally,
I bring home the ways that social change can begin through transforming
our relationships with the children who share out lives.
Replies
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The theme of control comes up in many parenting converstations I have with other parents (in real life and occassionally online) is about control and freedom and connection and respect.
My theory is that control oriented parents tend to be either permissive (avoiding control, and involvement) or authoritarian (insisting on control and being punitive).
I believe the most important thing is connection, with connection you have the right to be an inspiration or have influence in your childs life (just as there are all kinds of influences and inspirations surrounding that child) and with connection there is no need for coercion or controlling or avoiding of controlling behaviors.
anyway, I was curious about what others think about the contents and if they have read the book.