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rileysmom76
Am I right for being upset or am I just overreacting?
March 29, 2013 at 10:28 PM

I have a friend that I met through my brother almost 2 years ago.  She has her own apartment she had her own car until we were rear ended back in october she was staying with us because my home was closer to her job and school.  She's still here which isn't an issue, she takes me to get my son from school when she can and I appreciate it.  I'm unemployed and living at home with my mom. My last job was seasonal and it was overlapping with my sons school schedule and I wasn't getting paid enough to pay somone to get him from school until my mom got off work so i made the decision to not go back this year. I am currently recieving fs and medical for my son and myself.  the other day she found some money in her pants pocket and just joking with her i said "can I have some" she then says to me "No, go get a job".  I let that slide. She has been job hopping lately she has had 3 jobs this year already me , her,and my mom were having a conversation the other day and by me being older I was trying to explain to her that it doesn't look good on a resume to have so many jobs in such a short time and she says to me "Shut up you don't even have a job" I have been looking for a job with no luck I haven't been getting any call backs for the jobs that I've applied to so employment is a sensitive topic for me.     She has also been a little snippy with my son lately too.  He doesn't like to do his homework so one day he was complaining and whining a lil bit and she says to him "can you be quiet I'm trying to study" but she was getting ready to go to class and take a test but she was in the basement that whole day shouldn't she have been trying to study then?

  Then a few days ago she was on her laptop playing the sims and my son got onto our desktop computer and turned on some music he likes maroon 5 and she says to him "turn that off I'm tired of listening to Maroon 5" I haven't said anything because I don't want to look like I'm just being a b***h.  Do I have the right to feel mad about it or am I just overreacting? I would appreciate your answers ladies thank you in advance!

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  • frndlyfn
    March 29, 2013 at 10:50 PM

    I thnk it is time for her to have her own place.  She should have enough money saved up for a used car and her own apartment.  When everyone is getting on everyones nerves like this, space is needed.

  • rileysmom76
    March 29, 2013 at 10:53 PM

    she has both.  I just think since my brother lives with us she wants to be up under him

  • Beenhereforever
    March 29, 2013 at 10:55 PM
    I tell her good bye. Like... Now.
  • Rach0307
    March 29, 2013 at 11:02 PM
    I haven't had a roommate since college and I could never go back to that life, lol. It sounds like it's time for her to move out. Once you get to the point of irritating each other on a regular basis, the friendship has been compromised.
  • smurfbitebug
    March 29, 2013 at 11:06 PM

     I think, when you have two people living together..ANY two people.. there are going to be idiosyncrasies and habits that you both have that just get on each other's nerves to no end. And I think that's normal. So I would be a bit more laid back about it unless she really started acting out, especially towards your son. I would definitely keep an eye on that... but as it is right now I think it's the normal stresses of living with someone.

  • smurfbitebug
    March 29, 2013 at 11:08 PM

     wait.. she has a car and her own apartment? I'm confused.

    Quoting rileysmom76:

    she has both.  I just think since my brother lives with us she wants to be up under him

     

  • LT2266
    by LT2266
    March 29, 2013 at 11:08 PM
    You should tell her its time for her to go. 1st, its not her house 2nd, she shouldn't be disrespecting you 3rd, she shouldn't talk to your son like that!
  • rileysmom76
    March 29, 2013 at 11:14 PM

    Yes she does but for some reason she's still here.


    Quoting smurfbitebug:

     wait.. she has a car and her own apartment? I'm confused.

    Quoting rileysmom76:

    she has both.  I just think since my brother lives with us she wants to be up under him

     



  • smurfbitebug
    March 29, 2013 at 11:18 PM

     Nevermind my earlier comment, then. It's time for her to go. I thought this was a roommate arrangement based on mutual need, or a mutual agreement, keeping the two of you on par with each other. Turns out that isn't the case. She has her own home, and her own car, so she is now your house GUEST. House guests acting as if they have any control whatsoever within your house.. no. Curb her.

    Quoting rileysmom76:

    Yes she does but for some reason she's still here.

     

    Quoting smurfbitebug:

     wait.. she has a car and her own apartment? I'm confused.

    Quoting rileysmom76:

    she has both.  I just think since my brother lives with us she wants to be up under him

     

     

     

     

  • rileysmom76
    March 29, 2013 at 11:21 PM

    I just think she wants to be up under my brother all the time. 

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