IT doesn't have to be. A friend did a tea party themed wedding shower for my daughter. They served finger sandwiches, finger desserts and had each table decorated with different tea pots, very nice. Each table had their choice of type of tea. IF you have just women, you can add hats and gloves. IF men are invited, they need to learn there is more to life then football, just kidding. It's your daughters party and it sound lovely.