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Couples and Privacy: Where Do You Draw the Line?
January 9, 2013 at 12:06 PM

Some couples feel they need to share everything with each other. Others feel there should be some things you keep secret from your spouse.

Sex and Relationship Expert Ian Kerner joins the Mad Life team to weigh in on this revealing conversation!



Do you and your spouse share everything?

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  • JennMcBride
    January 9, 2013 at 12:47 PM

    We share everything lol. I don't think he remembers all the passwords but he tells me his so he dosen't forget lol. 

  • abra
    by abra
    January 9, 2013 at 1:02 PM
    Ha, ha! Yeah, the open door dump, not necessary, although not the end of the world if it does happen. After four HG pregnancies and four labor and deliveries (all with my hubby there)I learned that he is the only person I am truly 100% comfortable with. There were several times where I needed his help getting out of bed, let alone taking a shower, bathrooms and barfing... there are lots of indelicate situations I needed help with and he was there for me and that strengthened our bond. But for the everyday topics aside from bodily functions, yes, we share everything. Marriage is the act of two people who are trying to become one. What do you think sex represents? If you are unwilling to be completely open with your spouse and share everything, you are holding on to a piece of your individuality and that (on some level or another) automatically dooms the enjoyability and/or success rate of your marriage. Marriage is an all or nothing endeavor. If you aren't willing to share everything with your spouse, then you aren't ready to commit to a marriage. Trust is earned, it is not a given. It is when we blindly trust another human being that we end up getting hurt the worst.
  • countrygirlkat
    January 9, 2013 at 1:06 PM

    We share everything.  We are each other's best friend and we are the only people each of us trusts 100% so there is no reason not so share everything. 

  • Rushn311
    January 9, 2013 at 1:36 PM

    I share mostly everything with my hubby. If I can't share things with him, that just feels strange to me...some things I just can't share that are about him, I go to my best friend. LOL

  • C8linVilla
    January 9, 2013 at 1:44 PM

    I have only pooped while my husband was home maybe 10 times lol. And ONLY when he is sleeping or playing xbox! idk its simply weird to me! I dont fart in front of him and i very rarely burp. some things are simply for those who do it. Hubs on the other hand poops with the door open! Tells me if he is constipated or whatever. but he is a man lol

  • vinalex0581
    January 9, 2013 at 1:45 PM

    we share everything.

    we feel comfortable pooping in front of each other but for someone reason he refuses to wipe in front of me.

    i have asked him why before but he just said i just don't feel comfortable doing that.

  • frankiesma530
    January 9, 2013 at 1:47 PM
    We do share everything but you won't catch us dropping deuces in front of each other. LOL
  • C8linVilla
    January 9, 2013 at 1:47 PM

    But everything else We know each others passwords(but he never uses any of his stuff lol so doesnt matter) and I let him on my fb and what not all the time. Nothing to hide there. I am not a fan of him in the room with my giving birth but thats because i dont want him to SEE me poop while in labor LOL which only happened with my oldest. but other then that we are open and tell each other everything. but body functions is something I think should be kept to yourself

  • MommySwiggles
    January 9, 2013 at 1:48 PM

    We share everything.  He doesn't bug me when I am in the bathroom but if he needs to come in, it's no big deal.  He has seen me give birth 3 times.  Nothing left to hide haha.

  • kameka
    by kameka
    January 9, 2013 at 1:51 PM
    We're of the mind, regarding bodily functions, that if it happens it happens, but we don't really aknowledge it. Everything else is shared with enthusiasm lol