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Would You Refuse To Hand Over The Baby?
January 15, 2013 at 12:15 PM

Babysitter Who Refused to Give Baby Back to Mother Was Just Doing Her Job

Posted by Adriana Velez

cocktailsShould a child care worker ever hand over a baby to a drunk parent? A New Year's Eve fight broke out over that question when a "highly intoxicated" mother attempted to pick up her 2-month-old baby from a babysitter. She attacked two other people and was later arrested.

This was not just an argument, either. The mother hit one of the victims several times in the face, arms, and chest, and the second victim in the face. I don't know where the baby was during this fight, but I just hope he or she was a safe distance from this altercation and not in one of the victims' arms. I guess I'd have to hear more about the story to really say ... but maybe it was a good call not to let the baby go home with the mother?

I can imagine the mama-bear rage that would be unleashed if a sitter refused to hand over a baby. I'm sure the mother was outraged (and maybe a little embarrassed) to be told she was too drunk to take her baby. And then of course there's that lingering threat hanging over that accusation -- if you're too drunk to take your baby home, maybe you're a lousy mother. Maybe you're a total screw-up in life.

I don't know if the mother was driving, either. I would feel less nervous about sending a baby home with a drunk mother if I knew she at least had a safe way to get home. (I would still feel uneasy, though.) But if I knew she was getting behind the wheel of a car with that baby? No way. Better to suffer the mom's wrath than to let an accident happen.

People in that state can become irrational -- and dangerous. But what if the mother wasn't really that drunk? What if it was just a bad judgement call? I don't know that I'm completely comfortable with the idea of a sitter being in the position to make that call. I've come home to a sitter after parties or dinners where I did have something to drink. I don't like getting drunk in the first place, so I've never been in that position. But I think I'd get kind of defensive if I came home a little "happy" and was then accused of being unfit to stay with my baby. 

I guess when in doubt, the sitters should call the police. But what are you supposed to do while you wait for them to arrive? For all I know, that's what these two people did, and the fight broke out while they were waiting for the police to arrive and make the call. Still, you could look at it this way: These two people may have saved a baby's life.

Do you think a babysitter should refuse to hand over a child to their parent if they suspect the parent is drunk?

Would YOU refuse to hand over the baby?


  • johnny4ever
    January 15, 2013 at 1:23 PM

    What a interesting post!

  • cat1622
    by cat1622
    January 15, 2013 at 8:15 PM

    Well, considering the outcome of this situation, I'm inclined to say the babysitter did the right thing. If you are so drunk that you start fighting people, you don't need to be holding a 2mo old.

  • toopicky429
    January 16, 2013 at 11:40 AM
    I would refuse. The sitter would be held liable if something happened, and she was aware the parent she handed the child over to was drunk. A daycare one of my friends worked for was sued by a family because they drove home with their baby in their lap, had an accident, and the child died. They claimed the daycare shouldn't have allowed them to leave without a carseat. When my friend worked there she said a staff member had to check and make sure the child was secured in a proper carseat before allowing them to leave. So if I were babysitting that child, I would not turn it over, and risk whatever the possible outcome would be.
  • mem82
    by mem82
    January 16, 2013 at 12:11 PM

    The baby sitter did the right thing. I feel bad for that baby. My stepdad was a drunk. 8(

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