my husband and I tried for 5 years to get pregnant....my oldest sister passed away and amonth later, we were pregnant. They say when someone leaves this world, someone takes their place, so we attribute my sister for helping us!!
I always say God planned them. ;-) But for the intent of your question, my first 3 were actively planned while with the fourth, I was actually trying to avoid pregnancy.
Ds was planned, hoped and prayed for! Dd welp she is my unexpected little blessing! Ds took 3 years of active trying dd 12 days of preventing! She is ment to be here!