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DestinyHLewis
An open letter to parents who have decided a little magic in their children's lives is a bad, bad thing.. *Update*
November 27, 2012 at 11:28 PM

Here's the deal. If you have some hang up about Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny, Tooth Fairy, Disney Princess, or any other childhood magical creature, and choose to raise you sweet lil darlings that way? Go for it. However, please do the rest of us a favor that think the more magic in childhood, the longer the better, and raise our kids with those beliefs... For the love of Gawd PLEASE make it clear to your children that it is not fodder for public comment in school. ESPECIALLY not in Kindergarten. 


Id like to thank the dousche bag parent who told his 5 year old he is the tooth fairy, he gets her teeth from her pillow, puts money under it, stores them in his dresser, and that other people who think anything like the Tooth Fairy, Santa, and the Easter bunny are real? Are stupid. 

YEP. My youngest baby, she's 5, and a young 5, lost her very first tooth at school during lunch today. Baylie was so very excited about the Tooth Fairy coming and at our house Tinker Bell also comes with her to help her out and leaves fairy dust. This lovely child proceeds to try and ruin it for my child and laughed at her. All because her daddy told her people like Baylie are stupid for their beliefs.

Guess what dude? I not only think you are stupid for taking magic away from your child that only lasts a short while, but I think you are an incredible asshat for not making sure your daughter knows not to say that to other children. 

I just told Baylie that just like Tink, those who do not believe in her or the tooth fairy, will never get a visit, and those that don't believe in Santa, won't get a visit either. That is sad. 

She agreed it was sad and I just told her to ignore this child. 


You have your beliefs, and I have mine. Don't ruin it for everyone else. All you have done is try to kill magic and joy of a child... 

Ok. Rant done. I still want to punch this guy in the family jewels. All 3 of my girls lost teeth today. Tink and the Tooth Fairy were extremely busy tonight! Lol 


UPDATE Like I said, all 3 of my girls lost a tooth yesterday. So last night the Tooth Fairy and Tink came in triple time. ;-) Tink left A TON of Fairy dust ALL OVER the house and their beds including on the woobers. (J├Ąger) Like Nana from Peter Pan, Tink took him for his first flight. Lol Baylie proudly went to school today with her money and fairy dust, complete with pictures to show this little child how these magical creatures DO INFACT exist, and when this child argued, Baylie told her, they don't visit you because you don't believe! I couldn't wipe the smile from my or her teachers face. TAKE THAT ya little cynic! Lol I hope she kicks her dad in the jewels for me! 


Replies

  • Mesh2
    by Mesh2
    November 28, 2012 at 6:54 PM

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.

  • DestinyHLewis
    November 28, 2012 at 7:42 PM


    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.

    I fault the parent that tells their impressionable child that others who believe in magic are stupid. There is a huge difference between lies and childhood magic. Like I said, if someone chooses to deprive their children of that magical time? Go for it. Just don't send your little synic to school to ruin it for the rest of the innocent children. My sisters kids have known since as far as they could understand that mom and dad are Santa, thanks to my drama queen BIL, who said he was devastated when he found out Santa wasn't real. It is total BS and his mother has quite a different aspect of the truth. However, my sister made it darn clear to her kids that they Are not ever to tell another child Santa isn't real. She sure as hell never called others stupid in the presence of her kids. Yes finding out is a part of growing up. BUT 5 isn't that age and no one else has a right to decide for my child when that time comes. This dad may not have told his daughter to go out and tell everyone her joy killing rhetoric, but he sure as heck didnt tell her not to, and also told her those people are stupid. Wonder how that would have gone if I had told my kids non believers were just stupid, and they repeated it? Smh. Ugh 

  • fla33023
    November 28, 2012 at 7:43 PM
    Saying kids that believe are stupid is wrong but I agree. My son asked me in 2nd grade and I told him the truth. I got a call from his teacher the next day because he was telling kids Santa wasn't real. Im like...and why are you calling me? Kids are gonna find out. Sometimes its nice and sometimes it isn't.


    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.


  • DestinyHLewis
    November 28, 2012 at 7:51 PM


    Quoting fla33023:

    Saying kids that believe are stupid is wrong but I agree. My son asked me in 2nd grade and I told him the truth. I got a call from his teacher the next day because he was telling kids Santa wasn't real. Im like...and why are you calling me? Kids are gonna find out. Sometimes its nice and sometimes it isn't.


    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.


    You should have made it clear to him that he wasn't to go around spoiling it for everyone else. If he wanted to talk about it with your family? Awesome, but it wasn't his  or your right to ruin it for other kids. 

  • DestinyHLewis
    November 28, 2012 at 8:00 PM

    UPDATE IN OP. ;-)

  • fla33023
    November 28, 2012 at 8:10 PM
    I disagree. It never even crossed my mind to say that. In first grade, he came to me with the question. We talked and he chose to keep believing. Same thing in 2nd grade but this time he wasnt buying it. Kids talk and talk. They visit friends who have older siblings and they talk. It's part of life. Everything I tell my kids is not going to come with a "don't tell kids at school" disclaimer. The parent has to handle it when the questions come.


    Quoting DestinyHLewis:



    Quoting fla33023:

    Saying kids that believe are stupid is wrong but I agree. My son asked me in 2nd grade and I told him the truth. I got a call from his teacher the next day because he was telling kids Santa wasn't real. Im like...and why are you calling me? Kids are gonna find out. Sometimes its nice and sometimes it isn't.





    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.



    You should have made it clear to him that he wasn't to go around spoiling it for everyone else. If he wanted to talk about it with your family? Awesome, but it wasn't his  or your right to ruin it for other kids. 


  • DestinyHLewis
    November 28, 2012 at 8:26 PM


    Quoting fla33023:

    I disagree. It never even crossed my mind to say that. In first grade, he came to me with the question. We talked and he chose to keep believing. Same thing in 2nd grade but this time he wasnt buying it. Kids talk and talk. They visit friends who have older siblings and they talk. It's part of life. Everything I tell my kids is not going to come with a "don't tell kids at school" disclaimer. The parent has to handle it when the questions come.


    Quoting DestinyHLewis:



    Quoting fla33023:

    Saying kids that believe are stupid is wrong but I agree. My son asked me in 2nd grade and I told him the truth. I got a call from his teacher the next day because he was telling kids Santa wasn't real. Im like...and why are you calling me? Kids are gonna find out. Sometimes its nice and sometimes it isn't.





    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.



    You should have made it clear to him that he wasn't to go around spoiling it for everyone else. If he wanted to talk about it with your family? Awesome, but it wasn't his  or your right to ruin it for other kids. 


    Well we will have to agree to disagree. I think it is a crappy thing to do to other kids and their families. It's not that hard to tell your kids that others still believe and to keep it to themselves. Just like we do with older siblings when you have younger ones that dont know. Basically that's like saying you don't give a crap, and think you have the right to decide for everyone else when a kid should find out. If that is what worked for your kid? Great. But it is not incumbent upon you to pass judgement to what is best for other families. IMO I think that is incredibly rotten and selfish. You made the choice to tell your child, but you also tried to make the choice for other by not telling him it wasn't ok to spoil it for others. ;-( it is one thing if you tell your kid not to, and they do it. It happens. It is totally different when you purposely disregard others and choose not to tell your child to keep it to themself. 

  • Fairegirl33
    November 29, 2012 at 9:29 AM

     booo to the rotten brat @ school... you are such a good mommy, i love reading about your interactions with your girls :)

     my DH is totally against "lying" to your kids about Santa !  it drives me insane... i told him that i have never heard of any kid being totally distraught and hated their parents for this horrible charade LOL

  • fla33023
    November 29, 2012 at 11:22 AM


    Quoting DestinyHLewis:

     

    Quoting fla33023:

    I disagree. It never even crossed my mind to say that. In first grade, he came to me with the question. We talked and he chose to keep believing. Same thing in 2nd grade but this time he wasnt buying it. Kids talk and talk. They visit friends who have older siblings and they talk. It's part of life. Everything I tell my kids is not going to come with a "don't tell kids at school" disclaimer. The parent has to handle it when the questions come.


    Quoting DestinyHLewis:

     


    Quoting fla33023:

    Saying kids that believe are stupid is wrong but I agree. My son asked me in 2nd grade and I told him the truth. I got a call from his teacher the next day because he was telling kids Santa wasn't real. Im like...and why are you calling me? Kids are gonna find out. Sometimes its nice and sometimes it isn't.





    Quoting Mesh2:

    I have a strong feeling that the parents of that child did not tell them to tell all of the other children that they encountered that the tooth fairy was not real. Learning about reality is a part of growing up. If you choose not to be the first person to be honest with your children, it is not fair to get upset with someone who chose to be honest with theirs. 

    I am not saying that the tooth fairy will never visit my house, but I would never fault the parent of a child who told their kid the truth.



    You should have made it clear to him that he wasn't to go around spoiling it for everyone else. If he wanted to talk about it with your family? Awesome, but it wasn't his  or your right to ruin it for other kids. 


    Well we will have to agree to disagree. I think it is a crappy thing to do to other kids and their families. It's not that hard to tell your kids that others still believe and to keep it to themselves. Just like we do with older siblings when you have younger ones that dont know. Basically that's like saying you don't give a crap, and think you have the right to decide for everyone else when a kid should find out. If that is what worked for your kid? Great. But it is not incumbent upon you to pass judgement to what is best for other families. IMO I think that is incredibly rotten and selfish. You made the choice to tell your child, but you also tried to make the choice for other by not telling him it wasn't ok to spoil it for others. ;-( it is one thing if you tell your kid not to, and they do it. It happens. It is totally different when you purposely disregard others and choose not to tell your child to keep it to themself. 

    Life sucks at times. And if you expect every parent to tell their child not to go to school and repeat something they heard at home you are expecting a hell of a lot from people! When my first grader heard there wasn't a Santa, I didn't even think to blame the parents/sibling/cousin/friend who didn't tell them to keep it a secret. I talked to him and he continued to believe. At that age, the parent still has the greatest influence. And since there really isn't a "Santa Claus", I can't be mad.

  • Trollslayer
    November 29, 2012 at 4:39 PM


    Quoting ambermario4ever:

    We don't do those thing either but I have told my oldest who goes to school not to tell others because some people do believe in them.

    Us too, and I never had any parent or child come to me and say that my kids ruined it for them. My girls knew not to tell the truth about the ToothFairy, Easter Bunny, Santa, etc to other children.

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