I have a question for you who came in my sense yesterday after i chat here a littelbit. I told one mom that i had to spank Janette and why and her first reaction was to ask me "oh are you sad about it"?
Well i think about a moment and answhered no i am not that. It was deserved and so why i should be sad? I think back in time and the answhere was always the same. No i am not that if i our my hubby has to spank one or both of our childs. If my childs are sick or if they hve pain doe to an accident i am really sad and i am really suffer with them. But if they have pain because there bum was red not.
So my question to you. Feel you sad if you or your hubby give a spanking? I am coldheart because i only think such "good they have gotten what they deserve"?
I agree with stpmom too as I also believe spanking is a necessary part of raising children and it is a lesson learned every time it is done even though it may take time for it to sink in . In my experience a disciplined child learns self- discipline and self-responsibility so I have no qualms at all at giving a punishment when it is earned . My girls are at an age when they know the rules and what is expected of them . The drama queen performances I take in my stride !
I always have mixed feelings whenever i spank my kids. Trying to balance your anger for their misdeed, versus their bawling while over your knee? Most of us, I think, feel this way. Now that my kids are older, i usually give them a choice between grounding or spanking. This way, I can feel less guilty about their spankings, because they chose this option.
My very personal opinion? Don't ever feel sad, angry, upset or depressed after giving a spanking. I don't, never will, and it never even crossed my mind to be sad after one of our kids got their buns toasted. If anything, feel glad that you were given the gift of nurturing and guiding the child who got the spanking, and if that means part of the lesson they needed was to do go bed on their tummy? Fine! You are not cold-hearted at all for not feeling bad or depressed after a spanking.