I was cleaning my moms house before the gas man came to fix her heater. I was on the phone with dh and she walks in. Immediately she says "you didn't clean shit today, did you just sit on your ass?" She didn't even look around. I cleaned the living room, kitchen, and bathroom. I dusted, washed the windows, and even shampooed the carpet. I video chatted with dh a little while ago and showed him. Dh said "what a bitch" and she heard it. Now she's all pissed at me. Now there is tension between mom and dh. She didn't even apologized, never said thank you, nothing. I'm not helping that woman anymore.
If my mother talked to me like that she and I would be visiting her doctor for a mental check up. She can certainly be forward and cranky at times but that sort of talk would be out of character. If I help she's always appreciative. I don't blame your dh.. she was being bitchy.