Friday we're going to go to NYC to have an early thanksgiving dinner with dh's side of the family. We're staying the night and coming back saturday morning. The city is about 2 hrs away from where we live. My 14 yr doesn't want to go. We're not close with dh's family and she doesn't feel comfortable around them. She also hates going into the city. Usually when we go shopping there we leave her home but it's always a day trip. She's never been left alone all night before.
She wants to get off the bus at a friend's house then stay there until 9, then have her friend's parents bring her home. I told her she has 2 options.. come with us or go to her friend's house and then spend the night at my mom's house. That's when dh said we should just let her stay home. My dad and stepmom live across the street and my mom lives 5 minutes down the road. I'm sure she'll be fine but she is 14. Dh thinks that because we have left her home alone for the same amount of time during the day then she'll be fine at night. That's my issue though...it's at night.
I asked my niece if she could stay the night at my house with dd and she said no because she has to work late and be up early the next morning. But she told me she can come check on her and maybe stay an hour after work and before work saturday morning. I trust dd but I don't think I'm ready to leave her by herself overnight. Would you leave your 14 yr old overnight?
With your parents close by like that? Sure. I know this probably won't be all that comforting, but I was a mom myself at 16, on my own. Your DD is 14, not 10. She'll be fine.
by Anonymous 4
November 13 at 11:32 PM
I just watched a home video on the news of a woman taking her dog out and a stranger chasing her in the house. She was able to shut the door, but..he was still on her porch saying open the for... I couldn't leave mine do young.