Over the weekend my DH said he wanted to talk to me alone.
So we go in the bedroom and shut the door and he tells me my 17 year old daughter is making him uncomfortable. I ask him how and he asks if I could talk to her about not walking around scantily dressed.
I watched her the rest of the day and realized he was right. She wears tiny boy shorts and itsy bitsy tank tops with no bra.
Before I met and married DH I guess I didn't notice bevause it was just her and I.
He seemed really embarrassed and I felt bad for him.
I talked to her and she was annoyed. She said there have been enough changes with me remarrying and what should she have to change how she dresses.
So I compromised and told her she could dress that way if she wears a robe over it. Does this seem fair? She's acting like it's a huge deal since she's 17 and going through a phase.
Mine wouldn't be allowed to walk around in that anyway. My rule is that outside the bedroom, appropriate clothes must be worn and a bra if you require one. Tell her to stay in her room if she wants to dress like that.
She knows exactly what she is doing, and there should be no compromise. Tell her to cover it up, period. The "robe" first off might be also skimpy, and then there is whether or not she keeps it tied, etc. Tell her she needs to wear decent clothes. It's too bad you allowed her to dress like that even before you married.
I think she needs to relize that it matters how you dress when in front of other people. If she was in her room with the door closed and you told her to change that's one thing. But to walk around a grown man like that is inappropriate. Ask her how she would like your husband doing that because it is also his home. I don't think she would like that. Or even if you dressed like her when she had friends over. It might open her eyes some. In the end remind her she needs to dress better in front of other people.