Say the couple has one child. How much say does the sahm have over having another. Seeing as she isn't financially contributing.
Just a discussion a couple friends and I were having yesterday. I'm sure someone will find a way to start shit, but I'm interested what you all think.
This came up because a girlfriend of mine is a sahm who wants another child. Her husband says he doesn't. Doesn't want the financial burden despite being able to afford it. So hence, she doesn't contribute, she doesn't get a say.
"she doesn't contribute..." Are you kidding?!?!?!?!?!?! She's raising the kid!!!!!!!!!!
by Anonymous 58
July 8, 2014 at 9:37 PM
My husband wants another but I am done!
I am a sahm, and don't want to be anymore. He likes me at home but I am sick of the "control" and the kids are in school. It does mean more work for him if I get back out there, But he does respect my choice, even if he would like it otherwise.
The day I don't have a say in my marriage I will be finding a new partner. All decisions in a marriage should be equal. My husband would never treat me that way. My husband does not have any more say in finances than I do. It is our money 100% equal.
by Anonymous 56
July 8, 2014 at 9:48 PM
Partnership or not, kids cost...
You said a mouthful, but has nothing to do with the above statement. If I were a sahm, guaranteed if we were thinking of adding to our 4 kids, finance would play a big part in the conversation. I'm working and it still does.
Marriage is a partnership...A business, if you will. If one person is able to bring in the money and the other is able to create an atmosphere that allows said person to bring in the money, who are you to say that monetary contributions are superior to physical/emotional contributions? Both spouses have taken on a role that is required to make a marriage and family run smoothly, so why should one be put on a pedestal and the other get shit on?
I certainly wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who thought so low of me, as the mother of his child. I work just as hard as my husband and he doesn't have to want for anything. I take care of him and our child. His job is to keep us financially secure and my job is to take care of everything else......Happy marriage, Happy kid, Happy family.
P A R T N E R S H I P
Quoting Anonymous: But you ain't paying for that child. Partnership or not, kids cost.
My job or lack thereof doesn't define me, my husband and I are equals in every sense of the word. We're a family unit, a team, and we work together as such. If I wanted more children I would bring the topic up to him and we'd discuss it.
As a stay at home mother of 5 this saddens me that people think like this smh I am very thankful for the MAN/HUSBAND I have because although my contributions may not be financial, he recognizes and appreciates everything I do and has never made me feel like I had no say in whether or not I wanted more kids hence the reason we have 5 lol