My neighbor actually told me I was not the kind of woman men actually marry. Just have sex with til they are ready to settle down. What a bitch!
She asked me if my current SO and I had set a date yet. When I told her we have called off the engagement for now, thy was her answer. Wow. And she did t even realize what a bitch she was being and was shocked when I was offended. She tried to say she meant I wasn't the kind to settle down myself but that's not what she said.
Lol. I'm not the kind of man men marry either, mostly because I'm insane and can't stand being in the same room with a penis that I didn't give birth to or adopt.
May 6 at 10:38 PM
Based on her children having different fathers alone, you don't KNOW any of that. Isn't your god the only one that is supposed to pass judgement upon others anyway?
Quoting Anonymous: I am a Christian, but again my religion is irrelevant to this conversation. Im not judging her on ONE aspect, as an outsider I see a young woman who obviously makes irresponsible decisions. Those decisions dont just affect her, they have a huge impact on her children as well. She needs to step back and re-evaluate herself, she's lacking stability somewhere. Stable, mature people dont make poor decisions over and over like shes doing
Quoting Anonymous: You didn't answer my question.
I really don't think its fair (or right) to judge anyone based on one aspect of their lives. How sad that you believe it is.
Quoting Anonymous: Religion has nothing to do with my judgement. The girl obviously has some issues regarding men and cannot seem to make responsible decisions.
Quoting Anonymous: Let me guess.. your religous , aren't you?
Quoting Anonymous: Absolutely. She got pregnant in high school and then has 4 more kids by two other men, yep no more info needed. It tells me she lacks maturity and has a codependency problem with men, time to grow up and quit giving it up out of both pant legs.
Quoting Anonymous: All you know about op is that she has kids by different men and you think that is all you need to pass judgement on her? Wow, that's fucking crazy.
Quoting Anonymous: And you seriously got offended by what your neighbor said? Truth is she is right, no respectable successful man would look at you as any kind of marriage prospect. No man is going to be proud to bring that home, its trashy. FFS you have kids with 3 different men, bleh.
Quoting Joie35: No dear. I am getting divorced actually. My oldest was born when is was in highschool. The younger 3 are all my ex husbands. The baby I'm carrying is my SOs
And you are not married?? How many different dads? Five?? Holy crap, no wonder she said that.
Quoting Joie35: Whatever. Guess I'm cursed. I've got 4 kids and I'm pregnant with ny 5th. Clearly I cannot pass as some virginal church girl type.
A nice guy isn't going to want someone who is slept with a bunch of guys to marry and have kids with. A nice guy isn't going to sleep around with a bunch of girls,either.
Quoting Joie35: Why not? Most people do not wait for marriage to have sex these days.
Then you probably aren't going to find a very nice guy.
Quoting Joie35: Meh. I refuse to go without sex just because I'm not married.
She probably just thinks of the old adage about why buy the cow since you're giving it up for free. It does have some merit but they way she said that was rude.