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Anonymous
Dh says he wants a divorce
by Anonymous
December 8, 2013 at 8:06 AM
Whenever we get into an argument he says the worst things.
Yesterday we wanted to take ds out in ds in the snow to play but he didn't get off till 11 I had to work at 1. Then he had to run and do something. I texted him and said something along the line of you all can go out and play I don't have time either way. So he calls and says he will leave work early. I say no do not worry about it. You guys go ahead we will tomorrow. Then we hung up.
I reread what I sent him and thought it sounded rude and apologized to him. He comes home from work all pissy and mad over what I texted him. Such a stupid thing to be mad about but ok. I gave him space. Then I was on my way to work I call him and ask what else is bothering him because you seriously can't be that mad over something so petty. Then he said something about I can't dictate what he can be mad about and how long. I said 3 hours is a long time to be mad about me saying I can't play with you guys.
Then he started yelling and I said I have to go into work I can not do this right now and if you wanna scream yell and cuss I'm getting off here. He said fine I want a divorce and hung up. Well after me blowing up over that comment he texts way later while I'm at work something about being sorry he understand he he had anger problems and doesn't wanna be without me and he will get help.
I actually believed he was sorry until I got home. The house is a mess sink full of dishes and trash still not taken out. It was highly irritating when he worked 3 hours and I worked ten and had to come home to that. He was asleep and ds was asleep. So I told him I was irritated. His response was something about he always has to deal with this it's horrible I can't take it. I said you made that perfectly clear earlier. I was up all night with ds and he was sleeping like a baby.
Now he is upset I didn't kiss him bye??? Ugh this is so long and all over the place

Replies

  • Sunshine257
    December 8, 2013 at 8:09 AM
    That is stupid when couples throw around divorce like that. It isn't something to take lightly. I hope you guys can work it out.
  • justpeachy71904
    December 8, 2013 at 8:09 AM
    He sounds like a child.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    December 8, 2013 at 8:10 AM
    Y'all both sound immature. I wouldn't put up with the divorce threat tho. He wants a divorce, give him one. He will never change. My ex dh was like that. Finally I just left.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    December 8, 2013 at 8:10 AM

    My dh gets pissy at the drop of a hat, I can relate.he too says mean things when fighting. Although, he never apologizes. With your dh, I think you should carry on with your routines, go about business as usual. Perhaps it will dawn on him that the world doesn't revolve around him. Don't pay much attention to his moods. It helps me a lot to do that. 

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    December 8, 2013 at 8:10 AM

    sounds like your dh has uncontrolled anger issues and never learned how to communicate with people

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    December 8, 2013 at 8:12 AM

    mine is like that too...and, the next time i hear him use the phrase, 'we should think about divorcing", he's the one getting the surprise--i'm telling him i agree and to go ahead and start filing the paperwork, cuz i already have.   See what he says to that...i'll call his fucking bluff alrite...

  • scoleman828
    December 8, 2013 at 8:13 AM
    Mine too. Men suck sometimes. ..

    Quoting Anonymous:

    My dh gets pissy at the drop of a hat, I can relate.he too says mean things when fighting. Although, he never apologizes. With your dh, I think you should carry on with your routines, go about business as usual. Perhaps it will dawn on him that the world doesn't revolve around him. Don't pay much attention to his moods. It helps me a lot to do that. 

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    December 8, 2013 at 8:17 AM
    When he said that I went straight to the bank withdrew half our account and told him what he had left. I then sent him a number to my lawyer and told him here ya go. Then he sent this
    You know I love you and I never wanna be with out you I have a bad anger issue and say the most hurtful shit and I feel really bad I will get help wit this because your worth fighting for and I don't wanna be without u

    Quoting Anonymous:

    mine is like that too...and, the next time i hear him use the phrase, 'we should think about divorcing", he's the one getting the surprise--i'm telling him i agree and to go ahead and start filing the paperwork, cuz i already have.   See what he says to that...i'll call his fucking bluff alrite...

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    December 8, 2013 at 8:19 AM

    you should separate until he makes good on his promise to get help...give him a set time, and if it's not met, then the divorce filing will commence. 

    Quoting Anonymous: When he said that I went straight to the bank withdrew half our account and told him what he had left. I then sent him a number to my lawyer and told him here ya go. Then he sent this
    You know I love you and I never wanna be with out you I have a bad anger issue and say the most hurtful shit and I feel really bad I will get help wit this because your worth fighting for and I don't wanna be without u

    Quoting Anonymous:

    mine is like that too...and, the next time i hear him use the phrase, 'we should think about divorcing", he's the one getting the surprise--i'm telling him i agree and to go ahead and start filing the paperwork, cuz i already have.   See what he says to that...i'll call his fucking bluff alrite...


  • lnrmom
    by lnrmom
    December 8, 2013 at 8:21 AM
    I would tell him he needs to leave until he gets his anger under control and then you'll consider family counseling.

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