I know im being a shitty friend so lets just get that out of the way.
What would you do?
So after reading all the replies, i decided to tell SO that i was going to tell my friend. I said that we are just as guilty as his brother is if we dont tell her. And that Im sure he'd want to be told if his bro found out i was cheating. He agreed and he said we should tell her. Well about 20 min after we talked, his bro came home. He had been avoiding me. I go outside with the kids and he walks up to me and said that we were right, that he needed to tell my friend that is was over. I said that i was glad he'd do it because she needs to hear it from him, not me. So he said he would do it sunday(we spoke on sat). I warned him that if he didnt do it, i would.
So it sunday and i get a call from his friend and he informs me that No Balls in in jail. He and his buddy decided to go camping,he got drunk and ended up ditching his friend. Have no clue what happened to get his ass landed in jail but there he sits.
How convenient, he had given himself a timeline and failed miserably. That could have been his plan in the first place. Maybe land myself in jail so i dont have to break up with her. . So i called my friend and gave her the news. Of course she is upset. Apparently she has been iffy about their relationship lately and this is giving her the push she needed to get out. We remain friends:)
by Anonymous 1September 12, 2013 at 8:55 PMMYOB.
by Anonymous 2September 12, 2013 at 8:55 PMTell the friend.
September 12, 2013 at 8:59 PM
He's lucky you aren't telling your friend and he needs to not bring his skanks around after you both said no. I'd make him leave. He has time for two women but can't live on his own?
by Anonymous 3September 12, 2013 at 9:00 PM
I told my friend. I was put in the same position except that it was my dh's best friend living with us. The guy was cheating on my best friend and my dh didn't want me to tell her. I did anyway, what they were asking of me was bullshit and I would've wanted her to tell me if my dh was cheating on me!! In the end every relationship ended except for my marriage. Dh and I lost our friends and the couple broke up. There's a reason that they call it shooting the messenger and for a long while she actually stayed with the guy.
by Anonymous 4September 12, 2013 at 9:03 PM
I would tell her if she were my friend, and DH wouldn't be saying shit to me about it.
by Anonymous 5September 12, 2013 at 9:05 PM
I'd tell. If I didn't that would be like saying I was ok with it.
well................not many like to hear my opinion on long-term "SO" or my BF.... if the guy has not asked you to MARRY HIM after a year and a half.. just WHY is the girl still there?????????
SHE put herself into this situation by lying to herself for ELEVEN YEARS that he is a great guy and OH i LOVE him! whatever.
11 years and no marriage- he's a user. She was a convenience to him. She allowed it.
Now she will have to live with the consequences. I hope she can pick up and leave. You should tell her why prolong it for years more? Youth is VERY fleeting.