A friend has a so who routinely hits her. She has a support system and a job. Yesterday the little punk hit her on the side of the head while she was driving. The police ended up I involved and escorted him to his mother's. By afternoon the friend was back with him. Of course it was because "I love him!!!". I am sorry but I can't feel bad for women who will not help themselves. This isn't someone with no resources and no where to go.
EDIT....Clearly I need to clarify some things. Yes, I have been in an abusive relationship. Yes, I had the strength and the courage to get out. I stayed for 10 years. When I left I had no parents, money, or job skills. This friend has all of those things but chooses to stay. She does not have self-esteem issues and she also hits back quite often. I am the one who called the police yesterday. The local officers know the situation well as they have been called so often. She refused to press charges once again.
I can only feel bad for someone for so long. You simply can't help those who won't help themselves.
Some women are fools for men (and vice versa). I still have compassion for them, but it's for what they don't understand. It's for when someday they wake up and realize they deserved better and deserve love.
I agree. If you (generally speaking) allow it to happen, I'm not gonna feel sorry for you.
I have a friend whose dh hits her occasionally. At the beginning of the summer she left him and stayed with me for 3 months the out of the blue calls me at work and tells me she's going back. I swear she has Stockholm syndrome.