I can NOT STAND my DFs mother but we always just put up with each other anyway but for the past month and a half I haven't been allowed to go over to their house with DF. My LO isnt his and thats a big reason I think they don't like me but they knew that the whole time I was pregnant. Now my LO is now 4 mo. And my DF finally told me that his parents just don't think im good for him and don't like me.
I can honestly say I've tried to do everything in my power to be nice to them and show them how much I care for their son. His dad was even trying to push us to get married and then outta no where they hate me. Idk if DF told them something and isnt telling me but idk...
Anyway I don't want his mom around my child or at our wedding because of all the shit I've heard she's said about me and how she's been acting. She comments all the time how my LO IS NOT her grandchild but of course DF said we wont get married if she's not there. So I told him that I don't want her to speak to me its my day and ill just want to punch her in the face.
Sorry if its confusing im so tired, sick, and on medication right now and now im just pissed.
From this small post it seems to me that your husband is encouraging this. He is wanting to marry you then he should quell his moms mouth. At some point he is going to need to stand up to her. and as far as your son goes why would you even want to marry into a family that already doesn't accept him fully. can you imagine how he will feel once he is 5?
you truly need to rethink this whole thing and have it come to some kind of conclusion BEFORE you take the vows, or it will never change afterwards.
I'd reconsider the marriage, to be honest. Part of being a spouse is putting your other half before all others and he can't even protect you from his own mommy, not to mention her nasty attitude toward your child.
If you marry him, be prepared for a MIL with major boundary issues and a husband with the cord still connected.
August 25, 2013 at 9:44 AM
I would guess that her issue is less that LO is not his child and more whatever the circumstances surrounding her conception. So much of this story isn't being told.