Send him a pic of the evidence now, or wait until he gets home?
July 24, 2013 at 6:00 PM
Dh has battled with prescription painkiller addiction for several years. I recently found out he had relapsed. I gave him an ultimatum and he has been on board.
Before the ultimatum h spent a few days with his grandma who takes prescription fentanyl patches...when he came home I noticed the outline if a sticker in his leg. I knew she took fentanyl, but they know about his addiction too and usually hide theirs. He denied it, but I think I knew anyway I just left it at that.
Now, I found an empty wrapper from the fentanyl patch in his suitcase. I know it's from that weekend.
We've been getting along fine since the ultimatum, and he used it before agreeing to work things out.
I don't want to rock the boat for something in the past if he's actually moving forward with changes. It I'm pissed. He's such an idiot. I lost my brother to a heroin overdose, and this patch could have killed him.
So do I confront him when he gets home? I took a pic of it and taped it to the bathroom mirror. It could be hours before he gets home and I'm fuming. Why should I have to suck it up while he's at work? I want to text him a picture of it now...but there's not much he can say about it. He works in customers homes.
I feel like that's just going to puss him off and be distant when he gets home.
Send him a pic
I agree and if he can't have a conversation with you after you send the pic it'll give him plenty of time to come up with an excuse or reason for it being there.
by Anonymous 3
July 24, 2013 at 6:18 PM
Um; sending a picture... or taping a picture to the mirror doesn't sound like the best way to handle the situation. I'd talk to him when he gets home in a non accusing manner
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster
July 24, 2013 at 6:19 PM
I'm not so much mad about the lying as I am about the fact it was a fentanyl patch. That is far worse than popping a few Vicodin. It's irresponsible and could have left our dd fatherless. It was a large dose.
He left because I threatened divorce and told him i would leave if he didn't get clean. So technically it was after the ultimatum but before he agreed to it.
It was before the ultimatum so I don't see the point in bringing it up. I'm quite sure he kept a lot of drug use from you before. He's suppose to be clean slated so I'd leave it alone.