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spooky415
Adopting a dog is like adopting a baby.
July 21, 2013 at 5:52 PM
Kind of.

Dh and I have been thinking about getting another dog. Not this week or next-but sometime around the end of the year or beginning of the new year. We lost our male chi a few weeks ago. It seems as though our female chi is adjusting okay so we don't think another companion is necessary for her and with DS starting school in the fall we want to wait and see how he adjusts to that. We both plan to volunteer at DS' school and he's also doing soccer so a puppy that's a few months old will be hard to train on top of all that. We also both work full time and I'm a full time student PLUS I have a part-time job (I work retail. Its like I'm NEVER home during the holidays between school and work). So we really want to get all of that under control and get through the holiday season before getting another puppy.

I was thinking we could adopt. We've gotten our past two dogs from breeders because I really wanted a certain breed and chihuahuas-they can be kind of neurotic. We wanted a puppy so we knew what we were getting. That might sound harsh but with a little kid I didn't want to risk having an older dog that could have some left over issues from their former owners. I felt better raising the dog from very early on. It worked better for our family.

But now that our son is older and is used to dog and knows how to behave around them and with them, we think an older dog from a rescue could be a good fit for our family. But seriously. These applications-the questions-they're kind of...intense. First of all, I was already accused TWICE of wanting a dog for Christmas and I got a lecture from two different people about how people buy dogs for Christmas and then find out its too much for them to handle and they take the dog to the pound. I explained that no, that actually wasn't true. I want the dog AFTER Christmas. And of course I explained that we had a dog already, we had no plans to get rid of her, lol. But its like they weren't hearing me.

One of rescues I talked to was really alarmed that my dog had died. I explained that it was a shock and she kept asking about the medical care the dog had received. I said over and over again that we were shocked because everything had been fine at the last check-up. She said we should have been taking our dogs in more often. Our vet has NEVER said our dogs need to come in twice a year for regular check-ups. In fact, my vet always laughed at me for being so over the top in our vet care. You know how new moms call all the time about their kid sniffling? That's how I am with my dogs. Unlike my son, they can't tell me what's wrong and what hurts like my son can so I have to go based on their behavior. If something seemed off, we were going to the vet.

Finally, I was alarmed at the home visits. One of the rescues said they stop by-unannounced for home visits. I think that's a little much. If my references check out and i pass the vet reference, once the dog comes home with me-its MY dog. Its MY home. You don't need to come. Now, I can KIND OF understand visits BEFORE the adoption. Unannounced seems strange but I think it makes more sense than visits AFTER. I don't mind someone coming once if they set up an appointment and want to make sure I don't have any big holes in my yard and even after if they want to come over and see the dog's area...but stopping by unannounced?

I don't know. I feel like they have this ridiculous standard that even i can't meet and I'm a REALLY responsible pet owner. Everyone in my home is fixed, everyone has their own space, my home is clean, we have toys for the dog, cats, we do pretty extensive training to keep them safe and happy...I just felt like they were judging me when I hadn't even done anything wrong.

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  • Redwoods_Mama
    July 21, 2013 at 5:53 PM

    Ugh, rescues.

     

    Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.

  • lovinmykiddo07
    July 21, 2013 at 5:55 PM

    Home visits unannounced after seem kind of odd. 

    Also kind of odd that they'd be alarm at your dogs passing. We've had one vet tell us Kovu only needs to come in once a year, while another said twice. I don't mind bringing him in twice. But like you, I'm overly cautious when it comes to my cat & take him if there is any indication that something may be wrong. But sometimes things happen unexpectedly & there isn't anything you can do. 

  • spooky415
    July 21, 2013 at 5:56 PM
    Oh! There was one other thing! One of the applications (these were applications to get on mailing lists, btw, not mailing lists to actually adopt) asked if every put in our home in the past five years had bee fixed. We had one cat-Pig-who was not because she was so old. They said we couldn't be on their mailing list because of that and would ever be eligible to adopt a dog from their rescue. The vet didn't WANT to fix her because one, she could barely move and wasn't going to be leaving our house, we didn't have any toms in our house and finally, she probably couldn't get pregnant anyway because she was older than dirt. The surgery would have been harder on her. But apparently we were irresponsible. I offered too let them contact my vet about it but they said they didn't need to. Its crazy.
  • KRIZZ25
    by KRIZZ25
    July 21, 2013 at 5:57 PM
    if u dont have time for one dont get one..
  • spooky415
    July 21, 2013 at 5:57 PM
    My dog had a stroke. I mean, its not like he was sick and we just kept waiting for him to get better.

    She made me feel terrible about it.

    She kept asking about us "replacing" him so quickly. And I was like "We're not replacing him quickly. We're not REPLACING him. We're waiting MONTHS. We're just trying to research."

    It was just...so much.


    Quoting lovinmykiddo07:

    Home visits unannounced after seem kind of odd. 

    Also kind of odd that they'd be alarm at your dogs passing. We've had one vet tell us Kovu only needs to come in once a year, while another said twice. I don't mind bringing him in twice. But like you, I'm overly cautious when it comes to my cat & take him if there is any indication that something may be wrong. But sometimes things happen unexpectedly & there isn't anything you can do. 

  • Anonymous 1
    by Anonymous 1
    July 21, 2013 at 5:58 PM
    I adopted a year old lab and had to lie to get him because my son was 8 and their requirement was 10 and over. I know my son and he grew up with our first lab. I knew he could handle it.

    They just really want what's best for the dog and don't want a return. Good luck.
  • spooky415
    July 21, 2013 at 5:58 PM
    where did you get that i don't have time for them? I don't have time to consistently train one around the holidays. my three year chi is fine during the holidays because she's trained.



    Quoting KRIZZ25:

    if u dont have time for one dont get one..
  • spooky415
    July 21, 2013 at 5:59 PM
    I want a smaller breed because we live in an apartment. the only thing around here is pit bulls and pit bull mixes. i don't have anything against pit bulls but they're not a good fit for our family.

    Quoting Redwoods_Mama:

    Ugh, rescues.


     


    Go to the pound.  I got a very nice, sweet little chi from ours.  He has fit in perfectly.  Chihuahuas... honestly, if they're not being screaming little jerks in a noisy pound, they're sweethearts.

  • Kmakksmom
    July 21, 2013 at 6:00 PM
    That is so odd. If this was just rescues that you talked to, go to the animal shelters where you live. There are always animals at those places.

    Good luck.
  • sheramom4
    July 21, 2013 at 6:03 PM

    I refuse to adopt from any of the rescues around here for the same reason. One expects you to allow home visits for a period of up to 5 years and if you refuse or they find something wrong they take the dog. So you have owned a dog, paid for everything and then they can come at any time and take it away. The things they could find "wrong" included bringing another animal into the home without notifying them, them finding a better family for the animal, your yard not being mowed to their satisfaction and a bunch of other reasons. 

    Others had the same things you mentioned including an unreasonable expectation of the life of a dog. I was looking for my mom, who lost both of her Pomeranians last year. They passed away at 17 and 14 years old. This rescue wanted to know why and old age was not a correct answer. The dogs were old! They don't live forever....

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