Dh and I have been kicking around the idea of having a third baby for a few years now... and my heart really wants it. But the timing is so bad that I know it just wouldn't be right to myself and the rest of my family to have another baby any time soon. I feel like I created a baby in my heart and that I'm greiving the loss of a baby (that I never had) by deciding not to have one more. I hope I don't regret not having one more years down the line.
Now, I know that I can be a very stubborn and impatient person at times... so I'm trying to remind myself that I should be thankful for the two blessings that I already have (and I am thankful). Everytime I see a baby, I feel like it's a little sting and gives me anxiety about this decision though. It's very hard not to think about the "what ifs" day after day. I just wanted to know if anyone else has gone through this.
i really wanted one more after my dd was born ( not right away but a year after) she had some really big delays andtthough i realy wanted another child ( we have 2) my husband felt it woudl be best to devote any extra time we had to helping our DD get caught up. Once she caughtu p a vast amount and started school he agreed to try for one more. It took 2 years but well worth the wait.
My son will be 10 weeks on Friday & I already want another but it's not going to happen! I need to be there to care for the one I have first & when he gets older we can try for another...it does make me sad sometimes though!
I feel the exact same way. I don't see us living comfortably with 3 children though, it would be fine with the baby but the baby is going to grow into an expensive child and teenager. I don't want to have to tell my children no not because they don't deserve or need it but because we can't afford it, not be able to afford to do nice/fun things, etc. Also, I don't ever see me completely school with another child.
It does hurt to see my friends having thrm though. I think I will always regret it. But I would probably wish a lot of things were different if I did have the baby and so I should go with the lesser evil for all involved I guess.