ok so little back story, i have been friends with this guy we will call him F, for about 6 months now, and we have been just friends.... well for the last two months I have been dating (not officially) this guy we will call him S, well S is still not over his ex girlfriend, so he doesnt want to commit yet, although he tells me he loves me and we are basically a couple.... well tonight I get a text from F, he wants to know if he can come over to talk to me, I told him sure, no problem...
He got here, and he told me we needed to talk alone... well I took him into the other room, and we talked, he told me he was nervous about what he had to say, i told him i was too but just to get on with it lol, he said "well i have something to break the ice first" and (being naive) I said "whats that?" he grabbed me and kissed me..... AKWARD!!! I have liked him for the longest time, but we have been just friends... well after that he told me he is PCS'ing with the military at the end of the year, and told me he wanted to take someone with him, so he told me to pack my bags... I laughed thinking he was just kidding, he said "No, you dont understand, Im not kidding, I want you to be my partner in all of this, I have had you as an amazing friend the last few months, and I want more, I want you as my wife."
I was NOT expecting this!!!! So now I have to choose!!! Im soooo lost! I dont know if I am venting or asking advice or what I want out of this...
Oh and in advance YES I told S about F kissing me, S said its whatever, we arent exclusive so do whatever you want. and No I didnt tell S about F asking me to go with him....
**UPDATE** I decided that im breaking things off with S tonight, and afterwards im going to tell F that yes I want a relationship with him and see where it goes. :)
*EDIT* For all the women asking, no I dont have any biological children, I raised my ex's son from the day he was born, he is 5 now, we live in different states, but he is still my son, we talk all the time, and I have visitation, if I move with F I will actually be closer to him, although that is not a deciding factor in whether or not I go.... So to answer your question, no there are no kids that are going to be affected by this, both S and F have no biological kids, and neither do I. Even though I consider myself an adoptive mom :)
**UPDATE 2** So S called me back finally... after I texted him that we needed to talk tonight... He called, and just pretended like everything was fine, I told him we needed to talk, and can you please come over tonight? He said no, we can just talk this weekend... I told him it was important and didnt want to do it over the phone but we could, he said no... Im pretty sure he knows what is coming, and just doenst want to talk about it... Ugh :/ So I told him that I want to give F a chance, and that I deserved better than being a second choice... he got really quiet and said to wait before making a decision, and that he would call me back in a few minutes.... That was half an hour ago..... :/ We will see how this goes....
**UPDATE 2 and a half** So... S never called back... he SHOWED UP AT MY HOUSE!!!! he brought flowers, and was trying to be so sweet, told me he loved me, and was over his ex, and he wanted me and only me :/ I told him I didnt want to hear it, and that I wanted him to leave... he dropped down and proposed on my front porch.... he PROPOSED!! the guy who didnt want to make us dating into an official relationship because he wasnt over his ex... what the heck?? I told him no, and told him to please leave, he told me to think about it and had the saddest look ive ever seen... i KNOW he is just doing this to get to me 0.O Im trying to stay strong and not let it get to me but its soooo flippin hard! F is supposed to be coming over when he gets done at the range tonight... I will update after that conversation... Urgh :/
Quick Update- F didnt get done at range until late last night, so we are going to try and talk tonight if he gets back in time :) As soon as we talk I will update again :) He did ask me what I wanted to talk to him about, I told him that I had made my decision, but wanted to talk about it with him in person :D
Mini Update- F is on his way over so we can talk!! I will update as SOON as he leaves :) EEP! Im soo nervous and excited all at the same time lol
**UPDATE 3** So F just left :) He has to be up in 3 hrs :( So anyway... He came over, and we went to talk... First thing he said was "I just want you to know I will wait for your answer, you dont have to rush anything, I dont want you to feel like I am pushing you into something you dont want to do." I laughed, and told him I already made up my mind, I told him what S did, and so F said "Well I understand if you choose him, I should have told you how I felt earlier." So.... I leaned over and kissed him.... (omg! I NEVER do that lol) After the kiss he kind of pulled back a little, with this shocked expression, and so I asked him "Is that enough of an answer for you?" He got the cutest little grin, and said "So does this mean you're coming with me?" So then we talked in detail, I told him that I wanted to start a relationship with him, and when it gets closer to the time he leaves we will reevaluate things, but I told him I didnt want to rush into moving together, and especially didnt want to rush into marriage. So things are great between us :) I felt so bad because he was tired, he has range until Thursday :( Poor guy is exhausted... But any way, that is my update :) Things are great! He asked me if I would go on our first official date Friday (since he only works a half day and can catch up on sleep in the afternoon lol) Im sooo excited! Im still all giggly, and butterflies and just AHH!! I cant explain it :)
**POST DATE UPDATE**
So my date was AMAZING!! He showed up and brought flowers
Then he took me out to this place called Tuscanos, its this brazilian grill place, its my favorite restaurant :) After dinner, it was storming, and I LOVE thunderstorms, well he drove to this park, by the lake (river thing? idk it was water lol!) and we walked around in the rain, and just talked :) It was amazing :) Afterwards he drove me home, and walked me to the door, he said "Ok, this is how I should have done it the first time we kissed." And leaned in and gave me the most wonderful earth spinning kiss. Then he said asked me if we could go out again tomorrow, of course I said yes :) and then he went home.... I am on cloud 9 :D
- Only group members can vote in this poll.
- 91% - YES!
- 5% - NO!
- 2% - Other- Because there always has to be an other lol
by Anonymous 73May 11, 2013 at 4:42 PMFor God's sakes, chick. GET A DIARY!
by Anonymous 72May 11, 2013 at 4:49 PMThank you :-)
That is awesome! I wish her the best!!
As long as you are doing whats right for you that is all that matters. My sister got married in Vegas after six weeks to her husband not to long ago. She called me and our parents to tell us the good news and we didnt even know she was dating anyone. We are all happy for her because she is happy.
aww thats wonderful! My grandparents met during pearl harbor, they knew each other two weeks before getting married, they have been married 71 years now! I talked to my great grandmother about F, and she told me to go for it lol! I told my mom about F too, and told her what Nano said, she said she agrees, but that my dad wouldnt be ok with things going that fast, my parents dated at age 13, had me at 16, got married at 19 and have been married 22 years now! So Im just going to wait and see how it goes at the end of the year :)
Team F. Married my dh after a little over a year of knowing him and about 11 months of dating. We ate going on nine years. My parent got married after six weeks and have been married almost years. My aunt knew my uncle for years and without any dating got married (14 year age difference) and have been married over 20 years.
by Anonymous 1 - Original PosterMay 11, 2013 at 7:11 PM
by Anonymous 1 - Original PosterMay 11, 2013 at 10:56 PM
May 11, 2013 at 11:18 PM
I like f even more now!!!!!!!!!! !!!
by Anonymous 1 - Original PosterMay 11, 2013 at 11:31 PM
Lol! Me too :) Today he came over for a bbq for lunch, it was so great :) We had so much fun just being ourselves! and then tonight he took me to see Iron Man 3 :) Im pretty happy lol :)
I like f even more now!!!!!!!!!! !!!