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Anonymous
Real MEN get married....boys just SHACK up..which do you prefer ?
by Anonymous
April 18, 2013 at 10:26 AM
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  • calliemist
    April 18, 2013 at 10:30 AM

    It's a personal choice. 

    Not all men really shack up. And not all marriages are good. Some marriages can feel like bondage with both people struggling to be free. 

    Some marriages are beautiful and flourishes for all involved and leaves a positive impact.

    Some couples/families who are unmarried are the same.

    Whichever you want to do, it's always best to know what you are getting into. Take time to really get to know the other party before tying your wagon.

    Or better yet, let it all be for love. 

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    April 18, 2013 at 10:33 AM

    I have seen several real men that have lived with their SOs and have been more committed to the relationship than other men who got married. 

    Some men make the marriage commitment knowing it is what the woman wants, but still get action on the side because the wife is at home not aware she married a boy, instead of a real man. 


  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    April 18, 2013 at 10:34 AM

    I have no interest in getting married. I was married once in the past, unfortunately my ex-husband didn't take his vows as seriously as I did. I've been with my SO for over 10 years now. We own a home, a nice car and a truck, we have 2 beautiful and planned children. I feel happy and blessed, at no time do I ever wake up and feel like I'm "shacking up" or "playing" anything. 

    Marriage is a legal document. It promises legal benefits through the government, nothing more or less. It can't ensure happiness, health, wealth, love, kindness, communication, or commitment. It can't protect me from infidelity or abuse. It doesn't ensure that a couple will be good parents or even good people. That's all up to each of us as individuals and it can be done with or without a ring.


    I don't associate respect with a legal document. We fight for equality, respect, woman's rights, gay rights, the right to choose and have personal freedom but a couple mutually choosing not to marry bothers people. It makes no sense to me. Why does a choice that my SO and I made together irritate others so badly? How does my happiness each day affect you?

    It would be like me judging you for not having a prenuptial agreement. Like if I were to say that people who don't have one are "playing" marriage, have inferior husbands, and aren't being respected. Why would having that document automatically make you, your husband, or your relationship better? It doesn't. 

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    April 18, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    I've been married 30 years. I don't believe in "shacking up," and I raised my kids the same. My 20yo son has given up on relationships for the time being because none of the "girls" are serious about it. So, it isn't just the "boys."

  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    April 18, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    Yup. Little boys and girls play house.

    Married because I have more respect for myself.

  • Lizardannie1966
    April 18, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    The measurement of a "real man" has nothing to do with whether or not he wants to get married.

    I suppose then, that only "real women" choose to marry?

  • TrouserMouse
    April 18, 2013 at 10:35 AM
    Dumb.
  • vvinkyloafer
    April 18, 2013 at 10:36 AM
    I mean, if you want to pay for the ring my SO wants to get me before he proposes again and pay for the wedding he wants to have, that would be nice.
  • Jenn8604
    April 18, 2013 at 10:36 AM
    Smart woman stay single and don't babysit grown boys.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    April 18, 2013 at 10:36 AM

    I'm the one in the relationship that doesn't want to get married. I feel I am married, and I don't need the state to validate my role in my home. So not sure what that says about my husband. He must be a boy because he's just shacking up with me, and that must make me a little girl. Oh well, it's been fun playing house for 13 years, maybe one day we will grow up and spend our life savings on a dramatic wedding just to say we did it.

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