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A punch in the face. Why is this any different?
by Anonymous
March 30, 2013 at 9:14 PM
There was a post the other day where a raging debate took place as to whether its ok for a parent to bite a child back for biting to show them it's painful. The OP asked multiple times if that same child were to punch someone in the face would it be ok for a parent to punch that child in the face in order to prove the same point? Surprisingly nobody answered so I ask that same question.

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  • Hanab818
    March 30, 2013 at 9:21 PM

    No. I personally think its stupid and hypocritical to do that. You tell then not to do something then you go and do it.

  • melschlegs
    March 30, 2013 at 9:24 PM

    It's one thing to try to teach empathy, but that's a bit much.  My aunt would teach her kids empathy by doing things that they did (but didn't like, themselves) back to them.  When I say that, I mean things that were annoying, and the closest thing she would do that would be considered "physical" was tugging their hair (lightly) when they would pull each other's hair.  They learned quickly to think before they did things... but there's a line.  Hitting, pinching, slapping, and biting are way across that line.

  • catchup29
    March 30, 2013 at 9:30 PM
    This is simple. My children would have never punched me in the face. But as sure as im typing this, had they ever felt crazy enough to, it would be the last time they punched anyone.
  • MamaBurmie
    March 30, 2013 at 9:34 PM
    Yeah, what a great way to show your child that hitting isn't ok....

    Sarcasm.
  • twin_mama_x_2
    March 31, 2013 at 1:37 AM
    No.you don't teach them not to do something by doing it to them.with my kids & the kids i work with,talking it out is best.if they bite,don't overreact,comfort the child who has been bitten,& tell the biter very firmly no-teeth may only be used for biting food & biting hurts & it hurt their friend.that could work for any situation.
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 31, 2013 at 5:34 AM
    When you say there is a line. How do you conclude where that line is?


    Quoting melschlegs:

    It's one thing to try to teach empathy, but that's a bit much.  My aunt would teach her kids empathy by doing things that they did (but didn't like, themselves) back to them.  When I say that, I mean things that were annoying, and the closest thing she would do that would be considered "physical" was tugging their hair (lightly) when they would pull each other's hair.  They learned quickly to think before they did things... but there's a line.  Hitting, pinching, slapping, and biting are way across that line.


  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous
    March 31, 2013 at 5:39 AM

    Seriously, anyone with a biter knows it works... stupid and ridiculous question, you really want to encourage punching kids, your sick.........

  • Nika87
    by Nika87
    March 31, 2013 at 5:48 AM
    Stupid question.....
  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 31, 2013 at 5:55 AM
    Tell that to my girlfriend who has bitten her dd back twice and it hasn't worked (she's still biting). And why is my question ridiculous? Your doing the same behavior you are trying to stop in order to make a point are you not?


    Quoting Anonymous:

    Seriously, anyone with a biter knows it works... stupid and ridiculous question, you really want to encourage punching kids, your sick.........


  • Anonymous
    by Anonymous - Original Poster
    March 31, 2013 at 5:56 AM
    How so? Explain the difference as the principle is the same.


    Quoting Nika87:

    Stupid question.....

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